Thank you for caring so deeply about your sister’s well-being. Your concern, effort to gather proof, and readiness to protect her from harm show how strong and responsible you are. Here’s a response tailored with empathy, clarity, and next steps:
Understanding the Situation
• Your sister fell in love with someone who is, by your investigation, a cheater and womanizer.
• You’ve gathered proof and confronted him, and now he’s manipulating your sister to believe you’re lying.
• He has disappeared, but the emotional damage to your sister remains.
• Your sister is in denial, still attached emotionally, and experiencing suicidal thoughts.
• The family is mentally drained, and you’re looking for help and Tamil-language counselling for her.
What Your Sister Might Be Going Through
Your sister is showing signs of:
• Emotional dependence: She’s unable to break away mentally despite clear proof.
• Cognitive dissonance: Her heart and mind are in conflict—her emotions don’t match the reality.
• Depression and suicidal ideation: These are extremely serious and need immediate mental health support.
Next Steps
While I am not very well versed with Tamil, you can still consult with me to take on remedies for your sister’s wellbeing. If needed I could guide her through some translation apps. Else you could mediate that part.
Health Tips
Be Patient and Keep the Door Open:
• She may resist you now, but don’t give up on her.
• Avoid arguing—focus on listening and reminding her of her worth.
• Gently ask: “Do you believe someone who truly loves you would leave you in such pain?”
Involve a Trusted Mediator:
• A neutral elder, family counselor, or mutual friend could help open her eyes to the truth without making her feel cornered.
Address the Suicidal Thoughts Seriously:
• Never ignore suicide talk. If she mentions this again:
• Stay with her or ensure someone is always around.
• Remove anything harmful nearby.
• Call a local mental health emergency line or take her to a psychiatrist urgently for medications.
For You and Your Family
• This is not your fault. You’ve done more than most would.
• But it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. Consider family counseling too—to rebuild emotional strength and know how to support her safely.
• Stay united as a family—avoid blaming her, even when she lashes out. It’s her pain, not her hate, that’s speaking.
Your sister is not weak—she is hurt, confused, and needs help. She is lucky to have a sister like you who is ready to fight for her peace.
Help is possible. Healing takes time—but with support, your sister can come out of this darkness and find a healthy, happy life.