Hey there! I understand how difficult it might be to deal with fear and with failure. However you have taken the right step by reaching out. It is always recommended to take professional help in such circumstances. Consulting a psychologist will help you because he/she will be able to look into your concern in a detailed manner and formulate a treatment plan accordingly. However, here are a few steps you can take alongside therapy to help yourself manage those fears and feeling like you are failing at everything:
Imagine the worst and then imagine what is most likely to happen : Imagining the worst case scenario and then looking at what might actually happen will help you decide what is practically more likely to happen. This might help you think more clearly and reduce your fear with practise.
Look for proof or evidence: Try to find factual evidence for your fears. For example if you are scared of lizards, try to think of reasons why you should be. Challenging your thoughts often help you to deal with your fears better.
Visualise your happy place : This helps you calm down and prevent you from going into the spiral of fearful, irrational thoughts.
Reward yourself : Make sure to reward yourself when you take steps to face your fears. For eg. Buy yourself your favourite ice cream when you mage to make the call you were dreading all day.
Try to write down things you appreciate about yourself : It doesnât matter whether the thing is big or small, try to appreciate yourself more for small achievements. Even if you managed to get better scores that the previous time, give yourself a pat on your back!
Set small goals: Set small, every day goals for yourself. It could be anything from watering your plans to practice dance for half an hour everyday. This will give you a sense of achievement. It is a great job done even if you succeed with two of your planned goals.
Accept genuine compliments : If you are one of those people who usually brush away every compliment and depreciate yourself, then please stop! They tell you something good about yourself for a reason; because you are good at that or because that is something good about you! Accept it gracefully and help yourself to a big smile.
Answered2021-02-26 04:20:55
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