Hi... Do you think you are acting out of your insecurities rather being driven from what you really want? If that is the case you need to work on your own self-esteem more than this relationship.
To an extent it is fine to become little complacent when things appear under control and being worried when they don't. But in a relationship we are supposed to create something which is inclusive and mutually satisfying. Not something which is exploitative or toxic. Not something based on fears, but something based on mutual desires and goals.
Next Steps
Consult a Psychologist.
Personal Guidance and Interpersonal Relationship Counselling is required.
Health Tips
Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Senior Psychologist
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