I am happy that there were situations which gave you the clarity and the real identity of the other person.
It was a blessing in disguise..
My suggestion do seek a professional support to understand yourself better and how to work the marriage between you both as husband and wife..
Next Steps
Consult with a psychological Counselor for family /Couple Counselling..
Health Tips
For more details and clarity you can connect with me by using the link given below :-
https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir