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Concentration in studies is important and also in other social activities. For an healthy life do some exercises and meditation.

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How interested you are in your studies, in case you are finding concentrating on anything other than phone is, you might not have easy tasks. Solve the easy ones, once your intetest is above mobile viewing, you will surely come back to studies even after starting your mobile.

It seems to be performance anxiety leading to various psychological issues. It needs to be treated asap otherwise it may get complicated and can affect your personal, professional and social life. It can be well treated with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively and without any side effects. It needs to be addressed in a holistic approach for complete recovery. You need an expert Psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.

Hi, Consult a psychologist for professional help

I can understand how frustrating this must feel. Wanting to study but repeatedly procrastinating, struggling to sustain attention, forgetting things, and feeling mentally restless can be very distressing. Since you mentioned that you've always been somewhat forgetful and careless, but these difficulties have become much more noticeable after joining college, it's important to explore whether academic stress, anxiety, depression, sleep issues, or attention-related concerns such as ADHD may be contributing. A proper assessment is needed before reaching any diagnosis.

Hi, thank you for sharing your concern. It must be emotionally challenging for you to stay focused when you genuinely want to complete your work but still find yourself procrastinating and struggling with concentration. From what you have shared, these difficulties seem to be affecting both your studies and your confidence. Sometimes such concerns can be related to stress, anxiety, changes in routine, or attention-related difficulties, so it is important to understand the underlying reason rather than blaming yourself. I would suggest meeting with a counselling psychologist who can help you explore these patterns in detail and teach practical strategies to improve focus, time management, and procrastination. With the right support, these difficulties can improve, so please don’t lose hope. Dr Namita Ranjan Counselling Psychologist

Please go for clinical assessment

Hi, What you're describing goes beyond ordinary laziness for many people—it can happen with stress, burnout, changes in routine, anxiety, depression, sleep problems, or attention-related conditions such as ADHD. The fact that you want to start, genuinely intend to do the work, but repeatedly can't follow through is worth taking seriously rather than dismissing as a lack of effort. To get back on track, keep your goals very small (for example, study for just 15–20 minutes), put your phone out of reach while working, use reminders or a planner instead of relying on memory, and build a consistent sleep and study routine. If these difficulties have persisted for months and are affecting your college performance, it's a good idea to talk with a mental health professional or your college counseling service—they can help figure out what's driving this and recommend effective strategies or evaluate whether something like ADHD or another condition is involved.

Hi ,  what you are describing is way more common than you know .   The problem is not procrastination  or laziness but sometimes it is more of emotional regulation .

The concerns described seem to go beyond typical procrastination. The long-standing history of forgetfulness, difficulty sustaining attention, mental restlessness, and inability to follow through on tasks despite genuine intentions may indicate underlying attention and executive functioning difficulties. An assessment for ADHD, along with screening for anxiety, stress, sleep issues, and adjustment to college life, would be recommended. With proper evaluation and intervention, these challenges can be managed effectively.

Hi..I can understand your present situation . Your struggle with focus ,task paralysis and remembering dates is a common experience called executive dysfunction. You can build external system to help your brain manage some task..

What you’re describing sounds very overwhelming but it doesn’t mean you’re lazy or incapable. It would be helpful to meet with a psychologist to understand whether anxiety, ADHD or another concern may be affecting your focus.

You are struggling with severe procrastination, forgetfulness, and smartphone distraction since college started. This often points to an underlying attention deficit or executive dysfunction issue, rather than intentional laziness or self-sabotage.

First, I want you to know that what you’re describing is more common than you might think, and it doesn’t mean you’re lazy or lacking willpower. From your description, I notice a few important things: * You genuinely want to study but struggle to start or finish tasks. * Your mind feels constantly restless. * You are forgetful and have difficulty holding attention. * This has become more noticeable after joining college, where there is less external structure than school. Procrastination is often not a time-management problem—it can be an attention regulation or emotional regulation problem. Sometimes difficulties with focus, forgetfulness, restlessness, and chronic procrastination may also be seen in conditions such as ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder), especially if these traits have been present since childhood. This doesn’t mean you have ADHD, but it is worth getting evaluated by a qualified clinical psychologist or psychiatrist rather than assuming you’re simply “careless.” In the meantime, try these strategies: * Break work into 10-15 minute study sessions instead of aiming for hours. * Keep your phone away during study time, not because it’s the cause, but because it easily captures attention when you’re already struggling to focus. * Use a planner or digital calendar with reminders instead of relying on memory. * Start with the smallest possible task (for example, reading one page) rather than waiting until you feel motivated. * Maintain regular sleep, exercise, and meals, as these significantly affect concentration. Lastly, please don’t say you’re “gaslighting yourself.” The fact that you’re distressed by this and actively looking for help suggests you’re aware that something isn’t working. Instead of blaming yourself, try to understand why it’s happening. If these difficulties are affecting your academic performance or daily life, I strongly recommend a professional assessment. Whether it’s ADHD, anxiety, stress, or another issue, identifying the underlying cause is the first step toward getting the right support. Take care—you don’t have to struggle with this alone

Hi Thank you for sharing your experience, and at the age of 18, recognising these patterns is a sign of strength and self-reflection ability. It sounds like these difficulties have been affecting you for a long time and are now starting to interfere with your studies and daily life. Rather than blaming yourself, I would encourage you to consult a clinical psychologist for a comprehensive assessment. Problems with attention, procrastination, and forgetfulness can have several underlying causes, and identifying the reason is the first step toward effective management. With the right support, these challenges become manageable.

Hey, first off — 18 and already noticing this pattern about yourself is actually a strength, most people don’t clock it till much later! What you’re describing — deciding firmly and still not following through — isn’t laziness, it’s usually your brain’s attention system rather than willpower. I once worked with a student who said almost the exact same thing: “I decide, then somehow don’t.” Turned out her mind only switched on under last-minute pressure, not for low-urgency tasks like assignments, even though she cared. Very common, very treatable once you understand what’s actually happening. This “I’m forgetful/careless” label you’ve been carrying since school, plus the constant mental noise — it’s worth understanding properly rather than just white-knuckling through it. Would love to chat with you in a session so we can look closer and figure out a plan that actually fits how