Visited For Marriage/ Marital Counselling
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I an my husband have had the kind of marriage people say where we are made for each other. Single friends have confessed to me that they hope to find a partnership like ours. However things are so messier on the inside, that I at least could not take the consistent loneliness.
When I was decided to come to Prof Singh in Nov. 2018 we’d been married with children for more than a decade. We had our strengths and weaknesses but there was no communication department, which allowed us to navigate the transitions of parenthood, moves and job changes. Despite this we had tried everything and did not want the children to suffer in anyway. The painful truth is that I personally think we waited too long to seek professional help. It is very difficult to make the correct choice and we did not know where to go. Dr Singh had helped our friend and we had seen some great changes with her son who was autistic. Somehow Dr Singh had managed to keep the child together and also the improvements were quite significant, not to be noticed.
We all read accounts of the sympathetic, supportive husbands who work and are patient and my husband and I are like this probably two-thirds of the time. The issues started when all the things I couldn’t do he did not do and ignored. From cleaning the house, doing laundry, communicating with teachers, mediating sibling fights, and my own physical limits. I could only watch as the little energy I had went to my house work. By the time night arrived home both of us were completely spent and totally unavailable. This is something we had been ignoring, and while he could speak to people in his office, I would have not minded it had there been some outlet for me also. I have been in 3 sessions with Dr Singh and I am shocked at my own bitterness and how I have endured. Our expectations had created so many friction points of marriage where the ways we see things so differently that we were already so apart I realised.
What I want to write and pay my own respect to Dr Singh is that, he brought the family together as because of our own limited energy and concentration, we did not know what to say and both of us were just fed up. We opted for discussion as a form of therapy and it could not have been a better suggestion as it allowed major realignment conversations that helped bring us back to a place of mutual understanding and respect about our differences. Also I had given up work and at Dr Singh’s clear appreciation that we had a financial strain of decreased income and increased expenses after moving to Delhi, I must work. Money is the source of conflict even in stable situations and in our case we had began to argue about purchases that never were an issue before.
Our combined sessions made us realise that none of our extended family live near us and how we at our lowest moments, would lead to him vacillate between his frustration with my helplessness and the responsibilities. But the shouting, staying away from home till late at night were of no help to the situation and this is Dr Singh’s greatest contribution to our life. We were able to stay focused and create a plan where we could recover. Today I am working and gainfully employed with a DPS school and have a clear roadmap with for how to steer my marriage toward success and away from the potential aapada we were in. Opening up is not easy, as I realised, but finding the person who can help is a very big factor to stability. This has really helped us and we both want to thank our Doctor for his constant availability and help where he could read our mind about what was going on and what we wanted over and above the words we used to talk to him. When we both talk at home now, the one common factor we realised was some innate ability to calm you down that we did not find elsewhere, that made the difference, otherwise we would have never travelled so far to meet him regularly. Thank you
Dr. Prof. G.B. Singh (PhD) replied
I am truly, truly humbled. (Very Very genuinely) I am truly humbled and can't see the name, but thank you