Dr. G B Singh (PhD)

I'm a Software Engineer working at an Investment firm in Bangalore. Lately, I had been facing many issues at my workplace as well as at my home. At my workplace, I had begun to feel that my seniors have lost their faith in me and my colleagues don't see me the way they used to. I would avoid any social interactions as much as possible. I would be listening to songs on earphone all the time. I would eat my lunch alone and forget about me participating in any team activities. I could see my work quality deteriorating and I felt helpless. I couldn't even mutter enough strength to walk up to my peers and ask for help.

At my home, I have my parents who are both in their old age fighting with diseases like diabetes and thyroid. Every other day, I'd hear about one thing or the other going awry at my home, water flowing into the house, incorrect electricity bills by corrupt government officials. I care for them. And, I know they care for me too. But, when I know they are going through so much problems everyday, how can I expect them to provide me with emotional support. Heck, I wouldn't even feel comfortable sharing my problems. It would only add to their troubles. They certainly try their best when they find out someway that I'm struggling through some personal problems.

Everything just about everywhere around me is going wrong. Where do I go? What do I do? Some mornings I'd wake up with such clouded thoughts in my head that it'd take me hours to just leave my bed and start my day.

Luckily one of my very close childhood friend who lives in Delhi told me about Prof Singh. And, she made such a case that I decided to visit him. I called him, explained him the issue and told him that I want to meet him in person. After hearing about my problems, he explained me that he only follows the best scientific processes out there that he follows and how he would try his best to help me. So, I made travel arrangements and flew to Delhi from Bangalore. Our first appointment went for over 4 hours where he kept listening to me patiently, asking questions and giving answers. In those 4 hours itself, he untied so many knots that had become tied in my head over time, that I was already feeling very relived. And, I had not felt like this in months.

Next, Prof Singh recommended me to go for a test called the MMPI test. He explained me how it would help me understand myself much better, how it would make me aware of issues that I'm prone to and what measure should I take to keep my life in balance. I decided to go for it as my friend had also gone for it and she found it to be an eye opener. Next morning, I gave the test. Later in the afternoon, Prof Singh helped me understand the report, what it said and what that meant. And, I could now see many things that I wasn't even aware of earlier. Many things that I had been doing with a positive outlook were actually the ones that were hurting me. Then, there were issues that I felt had less importance but no it was high time for them to be addressed. An eye opener indeed.

It's been 3 months now. Things at my home are not so much better now, but thankfully, I have the energy to manage things at my workplace. And, I have the energy to figure out ways to help my parents back home and keep them happy too. I'm writing this feedback to serve as a thank you to Prof Singh for helping me out.

Also, I should mention that when my friend told me about the Prof Singh's consultation fee and the cost of test, I was in two minds about going through all this trouble. But, today, it feels like every penny was worth it. In fact, I feel that Prof Singh actually charge less for his time than he could.

As they say, when the student is ready, the teacher appears! That is how I would describe my meeting with Prof. Singh. Something completely un-imaginable happened in my life, something that shook the core of my being, a trauma which I can’t even begin to describe in words. I was engulfed with deep feelings of guilt, shame, humiliation and fear.

It was a life-threatening and embarrassing mugging incident which I foolishly walked myself into that has left a deep scar on my mind and soul. The after-effects of that have been so harrowing that I felt like I was hopelessly falling every-day in a deep dark dungeon not knowing how to come out of it.

Thankfully my search here drew me towards Professor Singh, who came in almost like a divine intervention for me. He has, as of now, brought me to a level of operational normalcy by identifying the immediate issue in my mind and dedicatedly addressing that before anything else. I am still dazed and I guess it will take many more meetings with him to start my path to recovery – but I hope I am back from the brink.

And when I think, it seems, only he could have done it. He is not your usual psychotherapist. He spent almost six hours with me in two sessions and got into my case fully, completely and headlong – even offering some out of the box ideas – and they really helped. He literally held my hand in this dark moment of my life – as I found it unfolding itself in front of me. I don’t know how he does it but I am indebted, truly! He doesn’t believe in relying on medication much but in my case he did prescribe the safest and natural stuff – which he has immense knowledge of from his years of experience.

I still remember when I reached his office after scheduling an appointment; he was having a discussion with another client of his which extended much beyond the scheduled time. A part of me was irritated and a part of me was admiring the amount of time he can spend with his patient! And that is what kept me waiting there – re-assured that he will provide that kind of patient hearing to me as well. And I surely wasn’t wrong. It was very late in the evening but he listened actively to all that I said and also perhaps, all that I left unsaid as well.

Before coming to meet him, I wasn’t sure if I would be able to describe my incident to him – but in just a few minutes with him, I felt safe enough to talk about it. With him you can open up about your deepest, darkest secrets and fears and he won’t judge you. It is a compassionate human connection that I formed with him.

I have been a soft hearted, empathetic, socially sensitive, risk averse and image conscious man, striving hard to bit by bit crawl up the social ladder with sheer hard-work and diligence. Sometimes being a good man, especially in middle class India, it could be hard – almost as hard as being a woman in India. I have been a simple guy indulging in simple things, just chugging along, not having any solid relationships to boast about – all of which is sometimes looked down upon. And I have always felt all that criticism was only fair.

After talking to him, I realized that it is this feeling of inadequacy, a feeling of inferiority complex or maybe the need to conform - that was perhaps at the core of the trauma I faced, perhaps. I regret not having met him much earlier. But I guess, the student was just not ready yet.

This review is not just a thank you note but also a shout out to all those peeps out there, especially men - the shy ones, the thinking ones, the spiritual ones, the introvert ones, the misfits – know that you are ok, that you are fine, and you are real – and that its ok to seek help, there is nothing wrong in it – in-fact, it’s important to do it before life completely weighs you down!

Thank You!

ANXIETY

I have a generalized anxiety disorder that I previously treated with psychiatric drugs. Serlift was the most effective anxiety treatment for me, but the side effects were so horrible that I skipped days and would rather feel anxious. Side effects included , emotional flatness/lackluster, diarrhea, headaches, sleeplessness, difficulty getting up in the morning. When I learned about Prof Singh from my colleague who insisted that I meet him at least once I was not sure. I consulted both my doctor and my psychiatrist and they were adamant about staying on psychiatric drugs and avoiding a psychologist or ant supplements. I tried a few other prescriptions over a course of a year and I was miserable with side effects and substandard treatment of my condition. On 10 October 2015 I met Prof Singh and I am so happy!! It's now nine months into therapy at my own pace, I go when I need, I don’t go when I do not feel the need to, and I am certain that psychotherapy and natural supplementation is the best treatment for my anxiety.

The effects of Psychotherapy were noticeable within two weeks and the only side effects are a some money spent. But then I would have spent so much more on drugs. I realised that. I realised that rather than 800 of consultation and 2500 of medication I might as well pay the thing in one go than be dependent . These are just figures and not what Prof Singh may change , but as an example I mean to say, I did not need to poison my body for the next 30 years.

After four months of the Psychotherapy and CBT treatment with Prof Singh , I experienced a life challenge and I started to stop my isolating stop feeling depressed. I still regained my prior-to-anxiety-treatment morning self (I used to be a morning person and wake up early, with a smile, even with a full blown anxiety disorder). My thoughts are focused and centered and positive. I am still a dynamic feeling human being with ups and downs, but I am no longer devastated by life challenges.

I stopped seeing the psychiatrist and now I see a psychologist instead - Prof Singh helps me with behavior modification, ways to deal with my problems instead of avoiding them.

One thing I've noticed, and I'm not sure which supplement to attribute it to: my allergies - severe reaction to dust and people passing comments have almost completely disappeared. I haven't breathed so easy at this time of year in a decade! I am a woman in my late thirties with no children, and I have no health problems other than the silly anxiety which it it was handled well would have saved me loads to trouble.

My work is really stressful and my anxious mind is creeping back. Im no longer constantly agitated and I thank Prof Singh for that. He is radical, innovative and completely open to suggestions from clients. I have a friend who is a cabin crew and wants to be a pilot. When she met him, he advised he what to do. My heavens she has been selected in GA in India as a co pilot. I am amazed how he transformed her from a blubbering person to a self confident young lady.

I continue to see Prof Singh when I want and I meditate sometimes, I walk, I go to yoga classes every week. I am social and active and busy. These things help, but when the negative thoughts are at their full peak, I feel like I don't deserve to do the things that make me feel better, and I berate myself, which starts a whole cycle of isolation and increased anxiety. *** **** * ***** *** ** ** ***** *** ** ***** **** ** *********** *** *** *** *** ** ***** *** we don’t like to say it in India because we hide but I say it , you saved me sir from a life time of antidepressants. For that than you. Every bit of rupee was worth it and will always be with you Doc.

Asmita Sharma

How it feels when a most happy person become lonely in life. Here is my story about my life. I know not everyone will be interested in reading my story but those who has suffered in a relationship will take out their time and read my story. Because many can related there with mine and before sharing it with you all I wanted to thank my doctor for helping me to get out form this and guiding me to live a happy life once again.

I was too young when I fall in love with my husband.I was in class 9th. He is 6 yrs older then me he was doing his engineering that time. He used to come to see me on every Friday just to see me that I am doing good or not. He is very good in writing poems so he wrote so many nice poems on me. That's how I started liking him , because he was doing so much for a girl who is studying in a school and that time every girls has a dream of a boy who can only love her ,can do anything for her so was I. He actually did so much for me to hear my answer yes. and I took 3 years I finally said yes when I was in class 11th. It was going great like it always goes when you fall in love with someone. I have all those wonderful poems with me. Sometimes when I read them I can't believe on him that he really had wrote all these for me. I was very good in the studies So I got selected in engineering . And I was so happy but , he wasn't happy for my selection. I ignore him and took his reactions very casual that might be he is not happy just because I would have to shift from here and he would not come to meet me on every weekends.

I was in my first year he started behaving different like he started fighting with me on very silly topics that why I am so busy in studies why I am not able to meet him every weekend. And I was so much in love with him that I really started missed my lectures to talking him. It's getting worse day by day . then one day he said he wants to marry me and he already spoken with his family and they all are planing to meet my family. I was in 2nd year that time. I was happy but I doesn't want to get married so early .then suddenly he again started behaving different he used to tell me that I should come back to home and quit my engineering so that I can spend more time with him and he has joined politics so he wants me to come back to my home. And I can do my further studies from there. Not engineering but I could take admission in some other course.

Now I was so much in love with him that I really started thinking like him only. I quit my studies but my family was not ready for this. They spoke to me on everything and I told them everything .but they said I should complete my studies and then only I should think of my marriage because I was too young that time.

I again came back to my collage and he was starting ignoring me now. And I doesn't like that. I was the most happiest person and I was no more happy person now. I wasn't getting his phone calls everyday. When I questioned him he has very nice answer that he wants to make his carrier in politics so he doesn't get much time to call me. That feeling I can't tell anyone what sadness I felt in that age.

I stoped talking to him for many months.and now he was like that he would have to marry me just now. I was so depressed from his behaviour that I wasn't appear in exams I quit my studies once again and I knew that I was not doing a write thing but I wasn't able to make me understand this thing and I didn't share this thing with anybody not with my family.

When the result came out my family got to know about that I have not given exams and they all got very hurt. Now they really wanted to speak to him so that they can decide about my future with him.

Now I was not ready for the marriage because I was hurt. They all came to our home with the wedding proposal and my parents were happy that they came and I should marry if I doesn't want to study engineering.

The day has come now I was getting married to the person I wanted to be some years back. But I could see clearly that he is not that person anymore whom I loved so much. He was a different man now.

But just for the sake of my long term relationship with him and to see my parents happy I did not said anything and I got married to him.

It's been 5 years of my marriage and I am suffering so much sadness and pain in my life that I came to DR GB Singh and told him my whole story and he guided me how can I keep myself busy and how can I stay happy to make a good decision for myself now.

Just after getting married to him .on my first night I got to know that he was involved with some other lady and his family also knew about that I spend my whole night alone waiting for him to come and tell me the truth but he is very good in making stories he told me very different story and I wasn't having any option only to believe on him. He is a womaniser a big womaniser I would say but no one in my family is ready to help me to get out from this marriage because I have a child also it's a girl child. I do believe on him sometimes that he loves me but again My heart knows it very well that he doesn't love me he just wants to save this marriage because of his political Carrier. So that no one can say anything to him. I am now taking divorce from him and he is also ready to give. I am only 26 and have seen so much in my life but I must thank my doctor to make me feel confident. I thank you doctor because Of you I will be happy in life.

My review is not a simple good/bad.

Small introduction first, I am a male 20 year old college student. I have been struggling with myself since childhood. I have knowledge but have trouble applying it because I lose focus easily. I tried many different things for years but nothing worked. I recently got interested in neuroscience and realized that my problem may not be motivational.

After few days of research(books, videos, articles etc), all signs pointed at ADHD. I went to AIIMS where after listening to my story for 5 mins, doctor wrote me a prescription for ADHD. I was unconvinced of this 5 minute diagnostic and didn't want to bullshit myself. So, I started searching online for the doctors with experience in diagnosing and treating ADHD. After some research I came across Dr. Singh. I was impressed by his profile on practo. Great bio, experience and feedbacks( 95% recommendation rate with 241 votes). I thought, "FINALLY someone who can actually help me". So, after 2-3 calls I set up an appointment.

When I arrive for my first appointment, he was seeing another patient(she had an appointment before me). That was not a problem for me because I thought it's good that he is thorough with his patients. I waited 20-30 mins. After which he took a small break and then we started. We chatted for 5-10 mins. I told him about:-

(i) My inability to maintain focus on one thing. I have started more than 100 projects in last 3 years while finishing only 10 of them.

(ii) I drift off to some other stream of thought in the middle of a conversation.

(iii) Not able to bring out the knowledge and skills I know I have.

(iv) My life will go downhill if I didn't do something about my problems right now.

Then, he said that he would like to do a test. It will cost 7k. He loads up the test on his laptop and gives me the mouse. I moved the cursor to answer the question and the software froze up. Instead of admitting that it was a fault in the software, he told me that I moved the cursor too quickly which crashed the software. First time I have ever heard of such a reason in my 12 years of experience with computers. Just to be clear, there was no anger involved. He blamed it on me very casually. I just went with his flow and didn't oppose, since all I cared about was knowing and fixing my problem. In all the later conversations we had, he will casually brought up how I cost him money and how he generously didn't ask me any money for it. Classic psychology. Constantly reminding me that I owe him.

After the software crash, he said he was tired and asked me if it is okay to reschedule the appointment for another day. I didn't want a tired doctor looking at me. So, we rescheduled it to the weekend morning.

I arrived in the morning and retook the test. This time, moving cursor as slowly as I can. I finish the test, he takes a quick look at the result and told me that I do not have ADHD. He writes some brain supplements on a piece of paper and tells me to look into them. Due to another appointment, he told me to continue our discussion in the evening.

I came again in the evening. I asked him questions about my diagnosis. He didn't provide me with satisfactory answers. Most of his answers were along the line of "just try the supplements". He also told me to write him a review on practo as payment for all the money I cost him.

Later that day I called him to tell him that he did not give me a proper prescription, just some names on a rough paper. Who will take responsibility of any side effects? He snapped. Shouted at me and told me to just take back my money(appointment + the successful test). I just hung up.

Next day he calls me in a cheerful manner like last night didn't happen. He told me that I haven't written his review yet. Then, he stays on the phone helping me write the review. He told me to write honestly. I didn't say anything opposing. Again, because I just didn't care as long as I solve my problem. I finished the review. He told me that I can call him if the pharmacist asks for a written prescription(spoiler alert: they didn't).

I order the supplements and patiently take them for 1 week. Then, I call him to say that I am not seeing any kind of effect AT ALL. Instead of telling me to be patient or "it will take more time", he went to the same routine, "come and take your money back". I have had enough. We are talking about my life(or brain to be precise), not some faulty pen drive in warranty. Ended the conversation and that was it. I took the pills(brain supplements) for 2 more weeks without any effect.

To summarize, he was friendly, angry, intelligent and manipulative. I am not trying to paint him black or white, but grey. He didn't treat my problem with seriousness. I guess, just because someone has a great profile on practo doesn't mean they are actually good. Don't judge a book by it's cover.

I deleted my previous review and this is my honest one, where I know how his treatment and diagnosis worked out* ** ****** **** *** ** *****Thanks for wasting my time and energy.

dear dr singh, thank you for your kindness and assistance if not for visiting you, i would have continued to suffer as was. I have been suffering from depression and anxiety for around 10 years. that was when i suffered a total mental break down and lost everything including my job and my fiancee and my mind.

i ended up living in a PG and it was horrible and i would hide inside the room for most of the day, being too afraid to go outside incase i had to talk to people. my brain simplly stopped working and i could not even get it together to make a cup of tea let alone go for food. it was so bad i hated waking up in the morning, and often wished that i haddent.

somehow my ex colleagues found me and brought me to the doctor who they thought could fix me after doing their tech research and who in this case was dr singh. when i met him i constantly i constantly had emotions of anxiety , fear, guilt, sadness and terror welling up from inside me. it was a gut wrenching feeling from my stomach and ache in my heart i dreaded the most. when i told dr singh that i wanted to end it all, i myself could not beileve what i was saying. throught the time i have been coming to dr singh he managed to get me in touch with my ex fiiancee and bring her also into some sessions and helped me overcome my problem, step by step and generated the faith and the belief in me that i would become well.

what i appreciated was that my ex saw what was happening and could understand what i had gone through and she also began to accept me as being one of the many people that suffers from a mind condition.

two ways in which i can never thank dr singh enough is how he guided me to rebuild my life with therapy and concrete proof that i could get my life back together again. secondly and more imp was that he valued me sufficiently enough for him to take my calls and make time for me. and explain to my fiancee that the real issue wwas my behaviour which made her see me in different way.

this was very imp as when my ex came back for me it meant , that i must have been of some value to her and i did not have the right to end my life. people suffering from depression need support and encouragement to keep working on themselves. i have been following dr singhs options and rationales on my self to make the feeling of depression go away and they do go away and it helps me know that i am worth every bit as the next person. and i dont think of harming myself anymore . it takes so much to find someone who can help and in this case my friends did it and whatever they did they did right, and i am grateful they came to me and brought me to someone who took care of me, akash anand

It was 3 months before when i first met Prof Singh. I found him through practo. After reading some of the reviews, I saw a ray of hope in my life which I was not able to find at the time or maybe for quite a while in my life. With that little hope, I went to see him and at the end of our first session, my impression of him was that he is a complete professional and someone you could trust. He is kind and gentle in his mannerisms.

In our first session, I told him that I am 28 years old and still not settled in my career because I am not able to clear my CA final exams from last 4 years. Then, I generally started telling him that I always had some problems in focusing and I have never understood anything in classes since school and i also admitted that i didn`t take my career seriously. For the lack of focus part, he suggested some tests and I was diagnosed with NL Syndrome. That also explained, why I always felt my whole life that something is not right in my brain and that was also the reason for my uncontrollable daydreaming. He prescribed me some natural supplements for it as he doesn`t believe in medication. He said that after a point medication also stops working. Then, he also started asking me some straight forward questions, about my family and whether I really want to do CA. I replied no, I don`t want to but now I am feeling like I`m stuck with it. Then, he very politely suggested me that happiness is more important in life than getting a degree. That I should stop pursuing a degree and try to find some work which I would find interesting because only then a person could be happy and successful in the long run. And he would also help me in finding that work as per my life situation and financial condition.

Another part of the problem was my relationship with my father. I told Prof Singh about it and he said that he could clearly see that in my personality. That is another trait of Prof that i admire, he has this intuitive sense of things. He would listen to you with utmost patience and non-judgemental way but he would also understand what is not being said and would make you feel safe to encourage you to share the whole problem, and that you will find yourself completely in tune with him. The problem was that me and father almost never talk. It is because he is very conservative and rigid in his thinking and I always feel that tension between us. Whenever I tried talking to him in the past he would just not listen to me completely and i always felt frustrated due to it. But now that frustration was bottling up since childhood and was affecting my whole life, i was feeling stuck with it. Prof told me that for my father talking or emotions means weakness. I felt exactly like that. Whenever, I would keep some different point of view from him on any topic, he would say that I`m very emotional and I find that reply really annoying. So, I gradually stopped sharing my opinions altogether in front of him. And sometimes even agree with him to avoid discussion. But now I realised i can`t move forward until I talk to him because it was in some psychological way affecting my personality. I always find difficult to open up with other people. Also I also noted in my behaviour that i would get angry with my father over small issues. But I found it to be an impossible situation. I don`t know how to talk to my father. So, when Prof Singh talked to my father for a while, atleast what it did was that my father started listening to me to some extent and i was able to say to him why i don`t talk to him. For which i`m really greatful to Prof Singh that he was able break some ice between my father and me. Prof Singh explained me some things about human nature and that situation is going to get worse if I do not take appropiate actions. Now, although my father still don`t understand me much but atleast I`m able to see some hope in this relationship. For which, I`m really grateful to Prof Singh.

So, with this email I want to thank to you Prof Singh sir. As due to you, despite my failure, i feel hope that things could get better if I take responsibility for my life. At the end of it all, I feel like I have found my mentor, to whom i can go whenever I`m in a predicament, so that I don`t feel stuck again.

I would highly recommend Prof Singh to anyone who is in trouble. I was sceptic to psychotherapy and related stuff. But, if you could find a right person, it could save your life from getting worse.

Marriage Counselling

When we came to Dr. Singh, I had found out about the affair of my husband from the other woman's husband. He told me what he had discovered and thought I should know. Up until that moment, I'd had no idea that anything was going on and wasn't sure what I should to do next. My husband knew something was wrong, and figured I had found out about the affair. When I confronted him with what I knew. His confessions came in bits and pieces over the next few days. I didn't realize at the time that I still didn't have all the truth; I was focused on wanting to figure out how to move past all of it. I was going mad when a doctor suggested that I visit Dr. Singh as she had some very positive experience which was a bit beyond just normal. She said, he could make out what she wanted to say even before she said it.

I was sceptic as the first counsellor I went to had really confused me. She wanted us to process the whole affair in one or two sessions and seemed to place all the responsibility on me. She said I needed to forgive my husband right away in order for our marriage to heal. It felt like I was being asked to ignore all the pain and confusion I was feeling.

I want to thank Dr. Singh as the revelations were so quick, that all I needed to know that my husband was telling me the truth and when it came to the facts of the affair was like walking in a daze. I believed he told me everything, but I wasn't sure what he was feeling. I needed him to be honest about everything, and if he still missed the woman from the affair. That was a huge part of it for me because the affair had gone on for so long and had ended only because my husband had been caught. Since he wasn't talking about how he felt, I was afraid he secretly wanted to go back to her. This is where I thank Dr. Singh, as the comfort level he created was so immense that my husband’s willingness to talk about that was an important step for us being able to move forward just flowed. As hard as it was to hear all of it, the fact that Dr. Singh helped the honesty which assured me that he wasn't holding on to secrets anymore.

I like what Dr. Singh said, that being committed to honesty can become empowering. It is easier to just admit the truth than to keep trying to control all the information. I also feel like now our marriage is where it's supposed to be. We meet Dr. Singh and talk about our problems and work through them together and our marriage is more of a committed partnership now. We are open with each other and we both are more involved in our marriage. I think our doctor’s patience, ******* ********* *** perspective has helped our relationship change a lot. Priya Dhamija

Coping with my fathers death

My father passed away on April 28, 2016. It has been over 11 months and now I am coming to terms with it. Initially I tried to just block myself and my feelings and the emotional hurt I felt made me feel more overwhelmed with my grief than ever before. I miss him so much and it hurts badly. My father battled with cancer for years, each time winning the battle and remaining strong. Finally the cancer decided to overtake him and before we knew it, he was gone. I'm 23 and I dropped out of my M Phil studies. We belong to Patiala and there was no way I could forget. I came to Sir when I was surfing the internet and saw his experience and did not know what to do or expect, just that I wanted to understand what to do. I felt cheated that I only got 23 years with my dad. It was becoming more difficult as I realised how permanent the loss was and how much more time I would have to spend without him than I got to spend with him.

Sir, from the first meeting itself was so reassuring that I felt a strange connect with him, a feeling I don’t easily get with everyone, and meeting with him was as though everything would turn out right. With Sirs help I have managed to removed the isolation I had developed from my friends and the isolation I had put on me which takes so much effort to go out into social situations, has begun to lessen. Honestly i find it nearly impossible to put a fake smile on and deal with it. Life goes on and I'm not ready to to yet. I feel sad most of the time, but I am now now passing the days watching mindless television. Just talking to Sir has made me realise the value of family and my worry about forgetting my father, his voice, his laugh, his encouraging words, how he could always make me smile when I was sad is beginning to make sense. Sir made me realise that , my father wouldn't want me to be like this. The manner in which sir has managed to help me overcome my problems sleeping and experiencing panic attacks, has helped me cal down to a very large extent. I plan to go back in July for my studies again and though I am scared to face it, I have learnt to take care of myself and my mother as I have started to work to taking care of myself. I owe a great deal to sir, who treated me more like a daughter than a patient and helped me overcome may feelings of uselessness.

I never knew that grief is so hard, and that it feels unbearable. But sir has managed to get me thinking rationally and for me, it seems that time has made things a bit lighter with his helping and soothing nature. I still feel so overwhelmed and I don't know what to do, but I am able to handle the loss a bit better now.I guess I want to share my story, so that others know that we can overcome to some degree the distress we face in our lives if we can get the right person to show us how to. Malti Yadav

Marriage Counselling

Extreme Distress is how I would explain, why I visited Dr Singh. I had been married for 8 years, and what was a love marriage, became a terrible problem between my father and my husbands family. I am the eldest and it is my responsibility to make a trend for my brothers and sisters. My father was very supportive and never force me to study or do anything against my wishes. I have been a very happy girl and now with so much time I have become a very moody person. We had our baby boy 4 years ago and we thought the troubles would go away. But it only became more serious as now I had to look after my baby also and I really wanted to work also. When I came to Dr Singh, I was not sure I could tell him everything, but I was wrong. Somewhere in the last 6 months he tool responsibility for my family and met my husband also.

It is not good to say I also may have been somewhere wrong. But I just wanted all the simple things in life like love, a family and a job. Maybe my problem was that I can shout very loudly and this also I am now controlling. If I say Dr Singh is just a doctor I would be wrong in saying this. His way of making you feel so comfortable and confident are very different. Being with him regularly and questioning him, I can say I have learnt a lot about my family and myself. It is difficult to admit, but after my baby’s birth, I also had started to love someone who was married. I am not lying. This was also troubling me a lot in my mind because, after 1 year, I had began to feel he will not leave his wife. This was very disturbing and when I told Dr Singh about it, i felt so ashamed. But I wanted to be happy. How to explain what being sad can do.

I am 35 now, and I wish I had come to him earlier. I could have saved so much with my life and sadness that does not go away now when I think of my past life. Mostly I cry when I think of my father, but I also feel that I should have given more time to my studies and becoming something. Dr Singh has been like a strong person for us. He is our guide and well-wisher and a lot of decisions we take, now we first talk to him about it. One thing that he has helped a lot with is keeping me away from depression medicines as I do not want to gain weight and how long can I take medicines for my mind. The other thing is that mu husband has also become more quite and less aggressive as when he talks to Dr Singh he is able to express himself much more better. It is not easy to find a well wisher and a guide, and this is why we are now definitely much better. We would like to thank Dr Singh for his extreme kindness and gentleness. Tina Johri