Consulted Dr. Prof. G.B. Singh (PhD) (Clinical Psychologist) for Stress
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How it feels when a most happy person become lonely in life. Here is my story about my life. I know not everyone will be interested in reading my story but those who has suffered in a relationship will take out their time and read my story. Because many can related there with mine and before sharing it with you all I wanted to thank my doctor for helping me to get out form this and guiding me to live a happy life once again.
I was too young when I fall in love with my husband.I was in class 9th. He is 6 yrs older then me he was doing his engineering that time. He used to come to see me on every Friday just to see me that I am doing good or not. He is very good in writing poems so he wrote so many nice poems on me. That's how I started liking him , because he was doing so much for a girl who is studying in a school and that time every girls has a dream of a boy who can only love her ,can do anything for her so was I. He actually did so much for me to hear my answer yes. and I took 3 years I finally said yes when I was in class 11th. It was going great like it always goes when you fall in love with someone. I have all those wonderful poems with me. Sometimes when I read them I can't believe on him that he really had wrote all these for me. I was very good in the studies So I got selected in engineering . And I was so happy but , he wasn't happy for my selection. I ignore him and took his reactions very casual that might be he is not happy just because I would have to shift from here and he would not come to meet me on every weekends.
I was in my first year he started behaving different like he started fighting with me on very silly topics that why I am so busy in studies why I am not able to meet him every weekend. And I was so much in love with him that I really started missed my lectures to talking him. It's getting worse day by day . then one day he said he wants to marry me and he already spoken with his family and they all are planing to meet my family. I was in 2nd year that time. I was happy but I doesn't want to get married so early .then suddenly he again started behaving different he used to tell me that I should come back to home and quit my engineering so that I can spend more time with him and he has joined politics so he wants me to come back to my home. And I can do my further studies from there. Not engineering but I could take admission in some other course.
Now I was so much in love with him that I really started thinking like him only. I quit my studies but my family was not ready for this. They spoke to me on everything and I told them everything .but they said I should complete my studies and then only I should think of my marriage because I was too young that time.
I again came back to my collage and he was starting ignoring me now. And I doesn't like that. I was the most happiest person and I was no more happy person now. I wasn't getting his phone calls everyday. When I questioned him he has very nice answer that he wants to make his carrier in politics so he doesn't get much time to call me. That feeling I can't tell anyone what sadness I felt in that age.
I stoped talking to him for many months.and now he was like that he would have to marry me just now. I was so depressed from his behaviour that I wasn't appear in exams I quit my studies once again and I knew that I was not doing a write thing but I wasn't able to make me understand this thing and I didn't share this thing with anybody not with my family.
When the result came out my family got to know about that I have not given exams and they all got very hurt. Now they really wanted to speak to him so that they can decide about my future with him.
Now I was not ready for the marriage because I was hurt. They all came to our home with the wedding proposal and my parents were happy that they came and I should marry if I doesn't want to study engineering.
The day has come now I was getting married to the person I wanted to be some years back. But I could see clearly that he is not that person anymore whom I loved so much. He was a different man now.
But just for the sake of my long term relationship with him and to see my parents happy I did not said anything and I got married to him.
It's been 5 years of my marriage and I am suffering so much sadness and pain in my life that I came to DR GB Singh and told him my whole story and he guided me how can I keep myself busy and how can I stay happy to make a good decision for myself now.
Just after getting married to him .on my first night I got to know that he was involved with some other lady and his family also knew about that I spend my whole night alone waiting for him to come and tell me the truth but he is very good in making stories he told me very different story and I wasn't having any option only to believe on him. He is a womaniser a big womaniser I would say but no one in my family is ready to help me to get out from this marriage because I have a child also it's a girl child. I do believe on him sometimes that he loves me but again My heart knows it very well that he doesn't love me he just wants to save this marriage because of his political Carrier. So that no one can say anything to him. I am now taking divorce from him and he is also ready to give. I am only 26 and have seen so much in my life but I must thank my doctor to make me feel confident. I thank you doctor because Of you I will be happy in life.