Stress and negative thoughts. Husband.

I am married for 5 months. My mother in law is very possessive of my husband and she starts complaining everytime i do something which she doesn't like. My mother have a history of Anxiety Disorder. As i am also a working personal i have to wake up early, clean the house, prepare meal for the whole family, go to office, in the evening again prepare food, dn clean up the utensils..etc etc. Its a hectic day and after doing everything my mother in law complains if i fail to do something. But the main problem is, my husband is very very devoted to his mother. He doesn't know how to balance his life between his mother and his wife. If he comes to help me in the kitchen his mom is like "you are tired take rest, she can do all this alone, after all she is a women so she will manage it". In the beginning i  felt sad but now i am starting to get angry. I am starting to hate my husband, negative thoughts like selfharm is starting to come to my mind. I despise my husband.