Reluctance to marriage
My frnd's parents are searching a guy for her.but she is very reluctant to marriage. She repels the idea of marriage and hates kids as well..people dont understand her feelings and pressurize her to get married because everyone gets married. She is very depressed due to this..Please suggest.
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Because everyone gets married and so should your friend is absolutely incorrect. The decision whether to get married or not, when to get married etc are important life decisions and the decision making capacity is with the individual. First of all she should try and enlist the reasons why and why not she should get married. Rationally thinking about these reasons would help her streamline her choice. She may also choose to discuss this list with a mental health professional. However I would also suggest that your friend needs to think flexibly and with an open mind regarding the issue of marriage. And it would be better if the decision is made without any preconceived notions or bias. It is an important and life altering decision and no definitive time line can be drawn to take this decision, however it would be important not to push the question aside and start thinking in this issue. Till then she can let her parents know that she needs some time to think about several aspects related to marriage. As and when a definitive decision is taken by your friend and can let her patents know firmly and politely. A better approach can be to discuss her reasons for the choice with the family in a non confrontation manner. I can understand that it is easier said than done. I would wish your friend best of luck to your friend. Hope this helps her .
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