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People expect either Beauty,intelligence or boldness from a person. Beauty & intelligence are inherited. Also parenting plays a big role in all three. My dad was not strict with me in education. Plus they are not that much educated. I am finding it difficult to cope up. Society is not accepting me becoz I am not exceptional in any one not highly qualified but have done masters not a beauty queen but average look and not too bold becoz of my brought up. I had to look after my mom who was sick they took help from me & putting the blame or pressure on me now. So I cldnt score much I mean 100%. I scored 75%. This shld come from childhood but now adding pressure on me is it going to help they are not understanding out of guilt or they wanted to escape from the society so they are doing like this how to handle this. I tried max but I am able to succeed only what I can do.
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Hi, I am so sorry you have to go through this. I see a bright, brave and kind woman in you who chose to take care of her sick mother in tough circumstances. I understand society has beauty standards, employment standards and confident standards that it expects from all of us and that totally sucks. However, how about We know ourselves and see us in a way that we love ourselves the way we are and then see how society responds to that? May be we will not need society to love us and be content with who we are and the gifts we are to the world we live in. May be you are the gift that this world needs. ❤️
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Let’s sit and talk about how we can work together finding ourselves and our own value system and then decide how we see ourselves. Love and healing ❤️
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It is important for you to understand yourself and appreciate yourself. It is also necessary for you to be your own person. You can have your own beliefs and you don’t have to get influenced by society. You can work on having your own perception. To feel better consult a psychologist and explain about your thoughts and what you are going through. Do not worry counselling sessions will help you feel better.
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Consult a psychologist
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Contact me for counseling session. Along with counseling I can suggest natural foods to calm the mind.
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There is lot of inner conflicts going which need to be resolved plz take help of psychologist to have a better and broader view.you can connect with me .
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counseling
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You need counseling sessions to improve your perception and decision making skills.
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you can contact me through online appointment for further assistance
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Have an independent life
Be assertive
Explore your positive qualities, express them.
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REBT Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy
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To overcome difficulties is to experience the full delight of existence.Arthur Schopenhauer
When we long for life without difficulties, remind us that oaks grow strong in contrary winds and diamonds are made under pressure.Peter Marshall
Your ability to generate power is directly proportional to your ability to relax.David Allen
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It is not important to have some exceptional qualities to cope in life. There is so much you are holding up and which is making you feel it is difficult and success is very subjective term. Please start addressing your conflicts.
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Consult with a specialist or a clinical psychologist.
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Hurry up and dont let your conflicts to pile on and worsen the condition.
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Consult a psychological Counselor to understand yourself better and to overcome this issue..
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... You seem to be suffering from poor self-esteem, parenting issues, career and personal life struggles, etc. You can address these issues over a period of time with the help of a therapist. You are perceiving everything around you through a lens that is not accurate. You not only need to work upon your perceptions but also on your beliefs, attitudes, and behaviours. You can't keep seeing the world through the lens you have created in your mind based on your bad experiences.
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Consult a Psychologist.
CBT along with Interpersonal Guidance and Counselling is required.
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Cell: nine six seven one three zero three one three four
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Ms. Purvi Chottai
Clinical Psychologist
8 yrs exp
Hyderabad
Hi.
Seems like you have had a childhood that set rigid expectations from you which is making you doubt your core values and abilities.
In therapy, we can help you identify these core issues, help you build a new identity of your own which is not fully influenced by what others want or think but what is beneficial for you.
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Book an appointment with a therapist who can help you adjust with this stuck point.
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Be kind to yourself. Respect your limitations and strengths.
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