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Not able to understand certain ppl
Hi . I'm 35 years old . I'm a software engineer in a very good firm. But I am finding it difficult to understand what a person is indirectly trying to say and respond to him; when a person a person is cunning. I'm not able to handle people who are rude or talk in an indirect way. I know I need to ask questions but when the situation arises I'm not able to ask them. I'm putting pressure on my wife because of this . She is trying to handle everything. She tells me to talk in a particular way , gives real life examples. I understand what she says but I'm not able to implement it. Even if I'm able to for a particular situation, I'm not able to do it consistently. This is putting pressure on our marriage. I feel inadequate, that I'm not man enoug. This comes naturally to most ppl, but I'm finding good simple task very difficult. I'm not able to respond to my relatives, or friends or to the personalities whom I face in daily life.
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Hi, Good that you know your limitations and wanted to work on it. Is it trying to understand other people? or Would you like to improve your people skills? At work place, analyze the problem / discussion and people's response towards that situation and learn to respond to it. When you have done for few situations why not for all situations. Try to work on yourself to build self confidence, communication and interpersonal skill. These would help you to see the differences in the way you handle things.
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You need to improve your social and communication skills. You need to be assertive also. To improve your skills you need to consult a clinical psychologist.
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consult a clinical psychologist
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Hi, it is good to know you are in a very good firm which goes to show you are doing well for yourself. You want to be able to handle people. It is important to remember that you can handle different kinds of people and still be yourself. It looks like you are thinking too much while trying to handle people. If you are not able to handle certain kind of people it is okay you will be able to handle the situation if you give it sometime. You are doing your best and with time you will be able to handle people. Counseling sessions will help you explore ways to handle people.
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Consult a psychologist.
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Contact me for counseling session.
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Social.skills and assertiveness ,these are skills which probably you are not an expert at and that's what is causing discomfort and anxiety. You have taken the first step by reaching out.see a counselling Psychologist ,to learn these skills.
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go in for counselljng sessions
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Both professional skills and social skills are equally important For us to lead a happier chertful life.. Talk to a professional person and get a clarity and understanding about yourself..
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Consult a psychological Counselor..
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For more details and clarity you can connect with me by using the link given below :- https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir
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