Marriage ???

Hi doc i m working as a analyst in IT sector.
My parents r pressing for my marriage. Now i have been in relationship with 2 guyz in the past and both turned out to b jerks.
Beyond a certain level of pretty infrequent physical need ( yes i mean sex) i have now felt dat there is no need of men in my life.  Wat shud i do
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Dr. Diwakar Sharma Delhi | Psychiatrist
hi there
i have gone through ur query and i m can assure u that there r so many girls out there who feel the same and face a similar situation. But then it is beyond doubt that u have better mental strength then most if u have really thought this through and arrived upon a decision.
Ur parents, more then ur marriage are concerned about ur welfare and happiness. So if there is any way u can show them u r being rational and psychologically balanced while making this decision for now , then its unlikely they will press u for it. But....
if u have taken this decision just to save ur self from the pain u have experienced in ur earlier relation, then u r being overcautious and irrational. i say this becoz u r past how soever painful and regretful it was .....was JUST PAST now....
the moment u want to avoid anything like that then plz dont forget ...u will also be avoiding a lot many happy moments ...
noone is perfectly compatible ever but its the perfect adjustment to each other which works miracles in a relation.
There is no guarantee that u will be requiring physical support after a certain point in life ...but as human being u ll always feel the urge to share and connect.
friends may not be devoted to u for all of ur life. lets be reminded that friends dont live with us in the same house and they have their own problems at times to take care of. so someone who knows that he will be with u for rest of ur life will probably try to adjust with u more than a random guy for casual encounters.
u may choose marriage or a live in but companionship is quite necessary in different phases of life in different capacities. It will always be a very personal call to take. and u can always delay this decision considering ur age.
Hope this helps u but still feel free to raise any further queries.
Thank you

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