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Is she obsessed or comparing?
My partner keeps asking me to gain weight. Have a good physique. And she also have had mentioned about her ex partner that he had a good physique. She Never directly compared that you are less then him. But i feel like this is a comparison sometimes. Is it a comparison or is she just obsessed with good physique(because she uses to send me gym pics too)
and concerned for me?
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Here problem is not what she wants or comparing with ex.problem is what you think want and expect.How much comfortable are you with yourself,image and esteem.Think and decide and then discuss with your partner in a transparent manner.
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Think -----Rethink and Reconnect with yourself to gain clarity and insights about situation and resposes.
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If you find it difficult to process it then connect with any psychologist for further discussion.
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Hi,l think you should not be in a hurry to make a decision about such things.An open communication with your partner could help you get a clear vision.Consult a psychologist for professional help
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Need more information. Consult psychotherapist for counseling sessions
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Honestly need to understand more about what she says to you and you know where her mindset is coming from. It could be both cannot comment. It’s too soon. Maybe you can connect with me. We can discuss it in detail and come to a conclusion. Whatever it is too much pushing of something is, not beneficial or great for the person, so if you don’t feel like that, you can you know say to her, and also we can discuss it so let me know. Let’s connect.
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You both need counseling sessions to correct your perception and decision making skills.
You need an expert Psychologist.
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you can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance
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Dr. Anupama Bajaj (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Bangalore
It looks like a concern. Sometimes there is an obsession also for body image issues.it might be not with you but the issue might be with her
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Ms. Somya Verma
Counselling Psychologist
6 yrs exp
Bhopal
It's understandable to feel sensitive about your partner's comments regarding physique, especially if they mention their ex-partner's appearance. While it's natural for individuals to have preferences, it's important to address any feelings of comparison or inadequacy that may arise from these conversations.
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Open and honest communication is crucial. Have a calm and respectful conversation with your partner about how their comments make you feel. Express your concerns and discuss boundaries regarding discussions about physical appearance. Consider sharing your own perspective and any insecurities you may have.
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Be mindful of how you approach the conversation to avoid escalating tensions or causing misunderstandings. Avoid blaming or accusing your partner, and instead focus on expressing your feelings and finding constructive solutions together. It may also be beneficial to seek support from a therapist or counselor to navigate these sensitive issues effectively. Especially, if you find that these conversations are causing significant distress or impacting your mental well-being, seeking professional support can be beneficial.
As a mental health therapist, I offer therapy sessions where we can explore these feelings in a safe and supportive environment. Whether you choose to connect with me or another therapist, prioritizing your mental health is important. Feel free to get in touch if you would like to explore therapy as a way to address these concerns and strengthen your emotional resilience.
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Ms. Simran Dugar
Mental Health Counselor
4 yrs exp
Kolkata
One approach you could try is writing down your thoughts and feelings on this matter to gain a better understanding of what you truly feel. This can help you clarify your feelings and prepare for a constructive conversation with your partner.
When you're ready, try to approach the conversation with your partner in a neutral and non-confrontational manner. Express your feelings honestly and openly, letting her know how her comments have made you feel. This can help create a stronger connection between the two of you and allow for a better understanding of each other's perspectives.
It's possible that your partner is coming from a place of concern and appreciation for your well-being, rather than making a direct comparison to her ex-partner. However, it's important to communicate openly to ensure that both of you are on the same page and that your feelings are being respected.
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
It's not a complete description.connect with the psychologist to resolve it
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