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Feeling alone and hurt
I am 27 years old unmarried girl. These days i am pretty upset and sad. I lose my patience quite often and get angry soon. Also, i cry randomly (though i am not a very emotional person).
Reason being that my best friend of 10 years is getting married and i am getting separation anxiety. For past many years our life revolves around each other.
She has always made me her epicenter. I have always remained her priority.
I am not properly dealing with the fact that she now has someone else in her life and she needs to talk to him as well. She is still giving me the time. But its hurting me that 3rd person has come between us. I get angry when she tells me about their talks. I have verbally abused her and made her chose between me and him. All this is bringing out lot of negativity in me. And it hurts me that i am ruining the life of the person whom i love the most.
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I think this query was posted earlier also.
See you will also get married one day and someone else will be the epicenter in your life and for your friend right now she is beginning a new chapter you are her best friend so you must support but at the same time if you feel like talking because feelings have to be talked about then you should consult because nobody in the comment section of Practo can tell you the solution which is direct to your problem
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Hi, Acceptance and commitment is the solution for your current problem.If you are a good friend who thinks positively,and logically,you should feel happy about your friend.Your anxiety may be temporary.You can seek professional help to deal with it.
Next Steps
Consult a psychologist
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Engage yourself in pleasure activities
Exercise and sleep
Positive automatic thoughts
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Consult with a psychological Counselor for a therapy..
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi you need acceptpance of your feeling.counseling is needed to resolve your feelings
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counseling
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consult and connect
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... You need to first accept your feelings without judging them. She was the epicentre of your life and she also enjoyed that attention and now when she is getting married her attention has suddenly divided and you are not okay with this change. When you'll be able to accept your own feelings without being guilty about them, you'll be better able to change them. Apart from this, I believe there is something else as well that is troubling you at the back of your mind. It may be an insecurity of being left alone forever, it may be some parenting issue, or it may also be because she was an escape from some other severe circumstances of your life.
Next Steps
Consult a Psychologist.
Interpersonal Relationship Counselling is required.
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Dr. Seema Aggarwal (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi..
I understand the bond you share with your friend.
You can share your thoughts and feelings with Counselor and learn to modify your thoughts as per the changing situation.
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Consult a Psychologist
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Acceptance is the key
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Ms. Manasi Tambe
Counselling Psychologist
2 yrs exp
Pune
Hi,
So sorry to hear you go through all of this.
I'd suggest you to book a counseling session and address all of this in therapy.
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