Family problem

My father died 3 months ago. he was a bipolar patient since I was 20. mother is schizophrenic since I was 3 yrs old. I am the only daughter. I am married now with a 11 months old baby. Problem is my in laws stays with us. I want to keep my mother as well with us but my husband doesn't want her to stay with me because of her disease which is irritating most of the time and which also can make everyday's life difficult. He is okay with her staying in a different flat in same building. Pls suggest what to do. I dont want to keep her alone as she has mental problem and she will definitely feel this is unfair to her if I keep her alone in a flat. Also keeping her with me can create problems with my husband and in-laws as she has problem of mood swings and when gets irritated she says something which might hurt the other person. And I am pretty sure my in-laws are not going to understand that at all. What will be the correct decision?
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Ms. Sneha Bhat
Counselling Psychologist 3 yrs exp Bangalore
Hello Dear, This certainly is a tough dilemma you are in. Firstly, i see that you are a beautiful person and your husband is understanding too to a great extent. Some decisions are very hard to make and they leave behind a burden either ways however you have to take a call not just based on short run but also long run. Just list the advantages and disadvantages for both sides of the wall and see which one gains highest priority. In both decisions you will have loved ones to console and manage. If it gets really tough consider a counseling session where things can be analyzed thoroughly to come to a clear decision and also to manage the other side efficiently. Good Luck.
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