Emotional imbalance. Demise.

Grief is an extremely traumatic experience, especially if the circumstances of the death are sudden or not natural. The loss of a loved one makes people lose grip on their control as well. To anchor themselves onto their sanity and for their survival, people tend to go through various emotions (some justifiable, some unreasonable) to try and make sense of their loss and gain some semblance of control. Anger and blame are a few of the more common emotions people feel after the loss of a loved one. Their feelings may not be right or justifiable, but the bereaved look for people to blame because they are looking for reasons. Reasons to justify the loss of their loved ones, and if there is not a natural or justifiable reason for their loss, they look for it anywhere they can find. This is where blame comes in. Your mother lost someone who was incredibly close and dear to her. She feels an overwhelming amount of pain that she cannot justify or channel into something that might help her. Her constant anger and the need to blame someone is the only thing that she can use to make sense of her grief. Maybe her blame is misplaced or maybe it is rightly directed, but either way, it can be harmful to continue harbouring such intense emotions with no better outlet. Talk to your mother and try to understand her side of things so as to allow her to talk out her feelings. Suggest that she get therapy for her grief because working with a mental health practitioner to make sense of her pain and regain her sense of control will better equip her to deal with the emotions. It will also allow her to process her grief, let go of her anger and blame and practice forgiveness more truthfully.

Hi. Blaming others is a dysfunctional coping.  Consultation is required for mother

CBT

Patience

Dear you, It's admirable that you are being a dutiful daughter. And it feels that you have done everything in your power and beyound to ease your mother. In this process you might have forgotten to walk your path. If you want to do something. You will have to come back on your path. It is your mother's story with her mother and others. You are not in picture. Draw a mental boundary, when your mother is having a emotional reaction. Don't try to solve the problem. Just be there. Give water... don't become peacemaker. And incase you get pulled into the argument. Hold your hand and just nod along. And I'm sorry advising what to do with your mother will be unfair. We are only accountable for our actions. And also you need to be kind with yourself. Your emotions. It's OK to be vulnerable.  Talk to a frd about how you feel. 

focus on yourself. get a counsellor for yourself.

drink water everytime your mother is in reaction phase. that will protect your reality.

Hi, I understand you are coping with the loss of your grandmother and you are also coping with your mothers emotional trauma. I understand you must be feeling stressed and upset about the situation. I know such kind of situations are tough to handle. It is important to take care of yourself and keep your mind calm by doing activities you enjoy such as reading, music, and so on. You can also think of pampering yourself with a good meal or nice cup of tea or coffee. You can write down your positive qualities and give yourself appreciation. Do not worry you can consult a psychologist. A psychologist will help you find ways to cope with the loss of your grandmother and also find ways to cope with your mothers emotional trauma. You will get the help and guidance you need with Counseling session.

You can contact me for online Counseling session.

Indulge in self care and give yourself appreciation.