My problem is the way my mom treats me she works in office, she is always busy with watsup phone calls of collegues she dont have time to spend with me my dad is a man who just lives to do job. I really feel surprised that for whom they are so busy that they could nt make time for us, my mom basically likes boy child so she treats my elder brother very much lovely and me as a slave i m gud in studies but she never encouraged me my elder bro is poor student but she loves him never discourage him but discourage me by what if u get good marks for what? so what? When she is with me she speaks back on my bro saying that he is not good at studies and with my bro she says she is not being good she dont work dont study why do she do this?? She scold me speaks rudely to me i cook for every1 but if i say my mom to help she ll scold me that i m doing all the work no one helps me wtf we have servents just to cook I does it just to do small things i totally find she hates me help me to live
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Hi Dear,
This situation is very disturbing to hear and I can understand how would you feel.
I would suggest you to be calm, and show patience at home. It seems you don't share out much.
Firstly, build some good relationships with your few friends or relatives or for that matter your own brother. Share your feelings with them. I feel if you tell your Heart out your brother will understand. Spend time with him, if you are good in studies try not to boost in front of your brother.
If you find no one to express out, start writing down your thoughts, try not to keep it within yourself. May a daily diary will be a good idea.
Secondly, keep doing what you do for the family. You are investing in them, they are not acknowledging right now but what I am asking you to do next eventually they will.
Talk to your parents, specially your mother. You can go out for a evening walk with her, you can involve yourself in what she likes to do, may be talk about her interest area. Once you have a good relationship with her, she would surely understanding you.
Maintain a routine for yourself, try and indulge in some daily exercises to keep yourself mentally and physically healthy.
If all of this does get you satisfactory results. Consult a counselor or psychologist who can understand you better face to face and make your parents realise.
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Oh! Sounds so sad. But when you are calm and peaceful, sit by all yourself and reflect whether everything that you have written is justified. Surely there is some truth in what you say. But it does not mean that your mother loves you less. True she may give preference to your brother. But it is natural for mothers to express their liking for a child on some occasions and another on some other occasion. You should not take it so negatively. Remember, nobody's life is perfect. If you can go into your brother's mind and look at your family dynamics, you might find that he too has some complaints that he is being ignored and you are being favored. It all depends upon one's perception and how you adjust. Please do not be so sensitive. Learn to smile and create such an atmosphere in your home that your family members rally around you. Join some sport, practice pranayama and meditation regularly; you will start feeling much better. It will help you mobilize your inner resources and you will not suffer so much for want of company because you will feel contented with these activities.
If you still feel depressed then there is nothing wrong in meeting a psychiatrist in person, and take his advice. Good luck. Smile! Everything will eventually turn out well.
I know how difficult it is for you.
Still , you have mentioned that you study very well.
Later in the future, after you complete your studies, you will definitely be able to get settled by yourself and lead an independent life.
Yes , I can under you miss the parental love and care. At the same time, if you learn to take care of yourself well nobody can trouble you in ur life.
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