Depressed and feeling uncertain.

I can understand that there are few things happening in your life  which are  not in your control. There are two choices for you 1.continue try to control what you can not control( like your husband & mother in law ) 2. Accept that you cannot control others but only your attitudes, behaviour, values.same thing apply to others. No body can change others attitudes only that person. This thing apply on your husband and you . Your mother in law cannot change your husband attitudes but only your husband can . Can someone change your attitude , i think no , only you can but others can only influence you to change your attitudes. This thing apply on your husband too . There is difference between influencing others and controlling others . We can only influence others to change their behaviour, attitudes, it is up to them whether they want to be influenced by you or not . We can only  influence them better when we are not emotionally disturb ( like anger , hurt , anxiety etc  ) so we have to learn how to influenced others but without emotional disturbance with assertiveness . Assertiveness doesn't guarantee results but increase probability of results. If all efforts fail You have 3 options Tolerate the situation with emotional disturbance Tolerate the situation without emotional disturbance Leave the situation you love your husband but you feel unloved , see if it true that your husband does not love you in that case you have to understand that we humans have strong desire for love ,it is difficult for us when we donot get love but not impossible to tolerate and no one die in the absence of love . We need love is myth . I am not saying stop desiring for love from husband but stop demanding that you must need love from your husband ( because you  love your husband therefore your husband must love you reciprocally )and remember your worth as human doesn't depend on whether your husband love you or not but on this thing that you are human. You can  consider yourself as human with less love but not worthless person or unloveable person.

go for counselling

Hi Married life is full of twist and turn sometime one can manage sometime not but do remember one thing if you are unable to process/change the environment then don't react instead change your response to the situation.

Change responses and turn focus on your physical and mental well-being

If unable to process then connect with Psychologist to reduce pressure and stress

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult and painful situation. It sounds incredibly challenging and emotionally draining. Dealing with interference from in-laws can be very stressful, especially when it affects your relationship with your spouse. Here are a few suggestions that might help you navigate this situation: Communicate openly: Try to have an open and honest conversation with your husband about how you feel. Be calm and composed, expressing your concerns without blaming or accusing him. Let him know how his mother's actions are affecting you and your relationship. Seek couples therapy: Consider going for couples therapy or counseling. A therapist can help facilitate a productive conversation between you and your husband. Self-care: Focus on self-care activities that bring you comfort and peace. Engage in hobbies, exercise, meditation, or any other activities that help you relax and maintain your mental and emotional health.

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time in your marriage. It's incredibly tough when there are external influences, like your mother-in-law, affecting your relationship. Your feelings of not being loved and the emotional distress you're experiencing are entirely valid. Please consider seeking professional help, either through couples counseling or individual therapy. A neutral third party can provide guidance and strategies to navigate these complex family dynamics and help you and your husband communicate more effectively. Remember, your well-being is essential, and you don't have to face these challenges alone. There are people and resources available to support you during this difficult period. Your life holds great value, and there are solutions to the problems you're facing.

Suggest both of you to consult a Relationship Counselor to understand each of you about yourself and each other...

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