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Daughter's studies !
Dear Sir/Mam,
My daughter is 3.2 yrs old and is attending her online nursery classes.
I hv started tuitions but she is not ready to study at all.
Today she spit on her tuition teacher and in reflex she slapped her .
Is it ok to continue with her or should I change her Tution teacher?
Please advise.
Regards
Rishika
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Online nursery classes. I pitty your child.
This is the time where children understand social relationships and move from a society called home to the REAL Society.
Provide her opportunities to understand and explore. The provider can be the parent or the care taker or a teacher.
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change the teacher and help her understand the online teacher by being a co-participent
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provide love the way she wants but not how you can give.
check with developmental milestones with professional help
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She is 3.2 year old girl, try to spend some with the her. Need to observe her complete behavior patterns. Font force her for tutions as you said she is very small. Better try for play methods to teach her.
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Try to spend productive time with her and play with her.
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Hi. Any other behavioral changes are in your daughter !! Yes, Teacher must be cautioned in using corporal punishment. Consult Professional. Do psycho diagnostic testing of your daughter. In case, special schools can be the good option.
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Child's imaginary world
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Dear Ms. Rishika,
I like to do an evaluation either online or offline.
We have to rule out developmental, behavioural and emotional problems like LD, ADHD, ODD & CD and Anxiety & Depression as well.
5 Finger Approach could solve this problem;
Thumb - Parental Training
Index - Remedial Therapy
Middle - Behaviour Management
Ring - Occupational & Social Skills Training
Little - Medical Management
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Luxy K L MA MSc MPhil
RCI MOH Licensed Clinical Psychologist
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Hi Mrs Rishika,
Due to present pandemic phase most of the kids are attending online classes. I would suggest you to wait till 4 years for the kid to start classes. Till then try to engage your kids in lots of activities rather than tuitions and online classes. Lots of interesting activities are there for kids of all age groups. Its a matter of concern that this pandemic is affecting our kids adversely wherein they are missing their school environment, co-curricular activities, games, social life and most importantly, their friend circle. rather than getting stricter with the kids we must try to understand what they are going through and we should get them engaged in interesting indoor or outdoor activities rather than getting them tied to online classes, televisions and mobile phones.
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Engage your kid in activities rather than tuition or classes.
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Hi Rishika
Your daughter is very young to be under pressure to study. The tuition teacher is not good for her. You can work on introducing interesting and fun ways to make your daughter learn and a psychologist will help you with this. Do not worry your daughter will be fine.
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Introduce interesting and fun ways to learn.
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Hi Rishika,
As a parent it's not okay to continue with sucha tution teacher but also it is not okay to be okay about what your child has done. Try to find out her reasons for frustration or this behaviour by being more of a friend to her than her mother. Know what is she dealing with. Remember even as a child. There are some memories which haunt and never leave even in childhood.
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br her friend, join me with art therapy or play therapy to know more on your daughter's inner feeings
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I think you daughter needs to be looked after and behavior modification is necessary.
She might be suffering from ODD. Such cases fall under above disorders.
It can be well treated with homeopathic medication effectively and without any side effects.
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Hi Rishika ,
I can understand your concern. From your post I can suggest two points. First your daughter is in very tender age and she needs playful engagement to teach academics. I suggest to change the approach of teaching. Online classes are to engage them in a group or provide them a feeling of doing activities together. I hope tution teacher would adopt a play way method to engage her. To deal with a child we need to think like a child. Secondly , children imitates others behaviour. Undesirable behaviours need to corrected immediately and desirable behaviours needs to be praised immediately. I suggest to develop a friendly relationship with the child and closely monitor her behaviour. We need to be very careful while dealing with children. Please talk to your tution teacher , suggest her to change her approach if she can .
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1. Be active and vibrant when you are with your daughter. Be a child with your child
2. Monitor her behaviour . Praise her when she does good work.
3. Use playful method to teach anything.
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Hello practo user
Your child behaviour shows that she is bored with this kind of teaching ie online
At this tender age parents need to teach the child in play way method than the teacher (tuition ).
3 yrs child needs parents teaching not tuition teachers
You need to positive reinforce the child with good behaviour
This will inculcate good discipline n mannerisms in child.
You can consult me online so can guide you futher how to correct child behavior
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Good day my Friend, i can understand your concern.
At this tender age a child is a child. They will exhibit all such activities even at school. It's the job of Teacher at school to make them understand what's Good habits, what's not good etc. That's called schooling !!!. Unfortunately, due to Covid suitation, kids are missing these kind of learning and sitting with mobile for classes!!. Importantly they are also misssing the learning from other kids.
Teacher you appointment seems to be not having such experience or not having patience to handle or Teach a kid. Better assess her again and decide.
Additionly as a mother, you can take extra efforts to teach your kid at home.
You kid is misssing social , peer interaction.
Today a lot of material and resources available online for mothers to learn and practice. Try them.
Take care.
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Ms. Neeharika
Psychologist
1 yrs exp
Bangalore
Greetings,
Spend more time with your child that makes her more comfortable.Give your time to her when you are at home.Listen to her what she speaks, utters,shouts,screams .It is not good to slap a student.Once when I worked as special teacher,child of 6 years bite my hand.I made her comfortable,flexible to study.We should not judge others unless we know.Understand your child and talk to the teacher make your child to friendly atmosphere to the study place/school.
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1.Play more time and smile when she screams.
2.Make her atmosphere to be playful with lot of activities.
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Feel free to contact a child counselor.
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Ms. Divya Bhatia
Psychologist
3 yrs exp
Bangalore
Thank you for reaching out to us. As you know, online education has not been quite effective for students, especially young children. At this age, a child is prone to dislike studying and just wish to have fun.
Spitting on the teacher is quite a behaviour, and the child must be confronted about the same. However, being physical with the child is not the solution. Slapping is extreme and might be a mode of punishment, but it is not a desired one. Being physical with the child may make her angry and not necessarily bring change. For change to occur, the child must be made to understand the difference between good and bad behaviour.
In your case, you can first apologise to the tuition teacher and ask her to not be physical with the child, and how that makes you uncomfortable. Despite you communicating your needs, if the pattern continues, you can choose the appropriate action to be taken.
Healthy Ways of Communicating to your child about an unacceptable behaviour:
1. Time-Out
Tell your child that the following behaviour is unacceptable and give a warning for the first time. When it happens again, give a timeout, meaning, choose a spot (a chair or a corner), and make them sit there with no toys or anything for them to entertain themselves. Keep the child within your eyesight but do not engage with them. Set a timer (5 minutes or so) and then take them out of the zone. Do not sound angry or frustrated with them.
2. Reward for good behaviour
Set up a calendar and make a note of the good and bad actions done by the child. For every good behaviour give a point, and for every bad behaviour deduct a point. If the good points outnumber the bad ones by 5 or so, reward your child. Choose the rewards carefully - like either an ice cream night, or the child gets to pick his favourite dish for dinner that week. Do not go huge or the child might spoil.
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... She is too young to be taking tuitions. Please don't rush things up, it never help. All kids learn and grow at their own pace and as parents you are supposed to support them and not rush them through. This approach you are taking is harmful and it will only hamper her natural psychosocial development. Kids at this age (3-5 year old) require love, attention, warmth and encouragement. This is the time their mind is getting hardwired. You can't play an updated software to an outdated hardware. Let it get built first.
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Dr. Padam Kanwar Bhati (PhD)
Clinical Psychologist
14 yrs exp
Bangalore
Dear parent,
It’s absolutely not accepted, many children does this .
Kindly change this as well as child need to learn communication . She is very you tution is not so required.
Let her enjoy communication and expressive language.
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Dr. Seema Aggarwal (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Bangalore
It seems like she is not comfortable.
I suggest you to consult Psychologist to discuss this matter in detail for better guidance.
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Ms. Bhairavi M.Thakkar
Counselling Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Mumbai
Rishika,
Learning is an interaction process and more of an imitation experience. A process of not knowing what's correct and what's wrong at younger age which is learnt gradually.
Probably there would have been some triggers while the home tutor was teaching which might haveled to the occurrence. Rather it is advisable to find out the cause of such behaviors. As many a times some certain reflexes of the kids are encouraged initially ignoring its reputation in later stages specially during the initial years of schooling, considering they are too young to know its not acceptable.
This as parents we don't realize unless and until when the child demonstrates outside the circle specially in schools.
Owning to covid e-learning methods through home and & tutors' teaching could also be variant.
As a parents try to know the cause of such behaviours in a way that you and the child both are comfortable with means to communicate.
This way the child would get bonding and also learn to discriminate behaviours.
Take care
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
It is definitely not a right behaviour..
As the child is anyway attend g the online classes, I think that is sufficient enough for her to study considering her tender age..
It is unfortunate that she is missing all those wonderful moments to be spent with her classmates in the school premises inside her classroom..
As she doesn't even know what is school is and it is a class, it is better to slow down your expectations upon her..
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