BPD and depression. Of action is for me.

I've struggled with Borderline Personality Disorder and varying degrees of depression since I was a teen. It wasn't easy for me to seek help but after a long time i did a few months ago. The doc prescribed treatment for my depression but wouldn't even discuss my BPD or my trichotillomania. The anti depressants and mood stabilisers prescribed made me feel miserable and I stopped them after ten days, never went back to the doc. I'm going through a worse phase right now with my depression but I'm hesitant to talk about the bpd again. Among other concerns I worry about requiring prolonged treatment which will be expensive And may lead to family and friends finding out about my condition. While I actually want to tell people close to me, unfortunately awareness and understanding of mental illness in our country is dismal. Please suggest if you have experience with treating BPD and what you think the best course of action is for me.