Hello Friend, Good that you are seeking a help here. Any relationship will continue long term only if there is a trust between partners and open communication. Else it's going to be stressful all through out.
Better analyze your priorities and matching once again by take a counseling support. I am sure will a open discussions, you will be able to see a different prepective about yourself and about your relationship issues with suitable solutions.
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