#1 Record Your Thoughts
When you have a negative thought that's looping and can't get rid of, record it.
Write it down in a journal or use the Evernote app, whatever works.
Remember at this stage you don't have to try to change the thoughts, just notice them.
When you write enough negative thoughts â you will start to see a pattern.
There will be a common themes of error like âassuming what people think of you' (Mind-reading), âassuming the worst outcome â (Catastrophizing) etc.These are common cognitive errors over-thinkers have and you should look them up online.
Knowing your errors will help you reshape thoughts.
#2 Re-shape Your Thoughts
Pull-up your sleeves and challenge the thoughts with logic.
Example: What f I never achieve my dream?
Have other people achieved similar things? Yes. What's stopping me? My habits and mindset. Are my mindset and habits unchangeable? No, I have successfully changed them for a while. I can do that again. As long as they can be changed, how can there be a never?
You have to tap into the malleable nature of your thoughts and re-shape them with logic.
It's okay if it doesn't work on every thought but keep going.
Once you reshape enough thoughts you will start to see the irrationality of your life-long thoughts and no longer give into them.
All this will take effort, but if you scrape at it daily with imperfect action, you will get there.
Next Steps
consult Psychiatrist/ Psychologist