Hello,
I am afraid that there might not be an option other than removing tooth (As per your explanation of the symptoms). The dentist rightly advised removing it.
Also as you said the tooth adjacent to it is also getting infected, time is of the essence here.
I would suggest that instead of denying the removal may be you should tell the dentist why you don’t want to remove it and what is the fear. The dentist will solve your questions about it and may be you will get a better idea about it.
Moreover, removing the wisdom tooth won’t make much of a difference in your chewing or biting tasks.
Next Steps
Go to a dentist and talk about why you don’t want to get it removed.