You are expecting tips to solve your problem. So for as you have described your problem, no tips will solve your problem. So consult a clinical psychologist.

Hi, you want to get rid of extreme anger. You don’t want to get angry quickly. You want to replace negative thought with positive ones. It is important to remember that you can manage anger and feel positive. A psychologist will guide you on how to manage anger and think positive based on your situation and lifestyle.

You need to change your negative cognition into a positive one because how you think directly reflects on your behaviour. You need CBT for that. Please consult a psychologist. You can book an appointment here https://www.practo.com/srinagar/therapist/ms-harisa-hilal-psychologist/amp

Hello dear I can understand what you are going through. You might be feeling easily irritated as well as ready to fight easily on small small things. You might be feeling insecure because of the negative thinking that you are dealing with. There could be many other reasons of your anger, irritation as well as insecurity in your relationship that you may not understand right now. You don't need to worry, just consult a psychologist or counsellor. You can also contact me and I will help you to get through this. Do not worry, it will be all right.

When you try to control any thought or emotion it is difficult. Rather you should analyse and understand the cause of your thought and emotion. There must be some underlying cause which you may or may not be aware of. You can sit with a psychologist to overcome this problem methodically

It seems that your lack of patience and anger is taking a toll on you. You aren't able to control your thoughts when you're angry and most of your thoughts are very negative. I feel that there are many unresolved issues that you're facing which are causing the bad mood. I invite you to join a counselling session with me to explain your issues and overcome them.