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From December 2024 to June 2025 I was on no fap phase, but after June I relapsed and that happened twice thrice in a day which never happened before, which then makes me scared and worry of 'Am I losing control over my mind ' this anxiety stayed with me for months and along with it intrusive thoughts like what if I harm someone also came , and these things continued till October, when on 6-7 October I was unable to sleep for full night, so this created a fear in me what if I don't sleep, but this also is fine , I was also sacred because when I think about my goals I don't feel the same excitement and emotion which I used to fine when I was fine, this created a fear in me, now after a month of nofap I again relapsed, and again that same fear of not able to control the mind and not feeling emotional about goals of life is hovering over my mind,
How to deal with it permanently? kindly help!!
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You’re not losing control — you’re scared of losing control.
Let go of perfection, forgive yourself, and your mind will calm again.
Balance is what heals you, not extremes.
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From your question, it is clear that you are anxious, and this anxiety is causing various consequences. Anxiety of not being motivated, becoming a bad person etc. Please visit a psychiatrist because if it has turned into a clinical issue then medical intervention will be required.
Consider consulting a psychologist along with because you need to speak out what you are unable to do for a good amount of time.
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This condition is curable, you just need to reach out for help. You can contact at eight zero one seven double four five nine six zero.
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If u have recurrent Intrusive anxious thoughts then u may be suffering from anxiety or even OCD. However without careful detailed psychiatric evaluation one cannot really ascertain the nature of your disturbance. Nevertheless u do appear to be extremely distressed about it all and hence u must immediately consult a clinical psychologist.
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-Consult a clinical Psychologist asap
-Do some breathing exercises as breathing exercise are known to help with anxiety disorders
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Do not try to self medicate
Do not remain untreated because lack of treatment may make symptoms worse
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For Anxiety consider taking CBT and Relaxation therapy. You can contact me at nine eight seven one four five six eight four seven.
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It seems to be a psychosexual obsession which can trigger anxiety and other behavioral changes.
It needs to be treated asap otherwise it may get complicated.
It can be well treated with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively and without any side effects.
It needs to be treated in a holistic approach for complete recovery.
You need an expert psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician and Sexologist.
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I have been working as a Homeopathic Psychiatrist, sexologist and Counseling psychologist for the last 17 years of experience. You can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance.
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Hi, consult a psychologist for professional help
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Hi,
These symptoms are common in anxiety disorders, especially when stress and guilt are involved, and they don’t mean you’re actually dangerous or losing control, it’s just that your mind is overwhelmed.
A good long-term approach is combined treatment. A psychiatrist can help with medications to reduce anxiety, improve sleep, and stabilize intrusive thoughts so your mind can settle. Alongside this, working with a psychologist for therapy, especially CBT or anxiety-focused therapy that can help you break the fear cycle, handle intrusive thoughts safely, and rebuild emotional connection with your goals. With the right support, these symptoms can improve significantly and become manageable.
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What happened with you isn’t loss of control it’s just your brain getting stuck in an anxiety loop after the relapse. That fear made your mind over-alert, which is why intrusive thoughts, sleep anxiety, and that “I don’t feel the same excitement” feeling came. It’s all stress and fear, not madness.
Once your anxiety settles, the thoughts and flat feelings settle too. You’re not losing your mind your mind is just tired.
Take therapy. You can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.
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Ms. Ligi R Nair
Counselling Psychologist
3 yrs exp
Bangalore
Thank you for sharing this so openly — what you’re describing sounds very distressing, and it makes sense that the fear of “losing control” has grown stronger over time. The pattern you mentioned—relapse → fear → intrusive thoughts → anxiety about sleep and goals—is actually a very common anxiety cycle. It doesn’t mean you’re dangerous, and it doesn’t mean you’re losing your mind.
Intrusive thoughts, fear of relapse, and loss of motivation often come from anxiety, guilt, and pressure to be perfect, not from a real problem with your abilities or character. When you stop seeing a relapse as a “failure,” the fear usually reduces.
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A few things that can help:
Learn grounding and calming skills (slow breathing, muscle relaxation, journaling).
Challenge the fear-based thoughts with more realistic ones (“a relapse doesn’t define my control or my future”).
Reduce strict rules like “I must be on nofap or I’ll lose control,” since rigid rules often increase anxiety.
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Talk to a therapist if the intrusive thoughts or fear cycles keep returning — these respond very well to CBT and anxiety-focused therapy.
You are not broken. You are experiencing a strong anxiety loop, and with the right support and coping tools, it can be changed permanently
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Ms. Pooja Gupta
Counselling Psychologist
8 yrs exp
Delhi
Hi,
It sounds like you're experiencing significant anxiety, intrusive thoughts, and fear of losing control over your mind, especially related to your relapse and changes in your emotional responses. These feelings are understandable, but they can be overwhelming if not managed properly. The most important step is to seek support from a mental health professional who can help you work through these fears, intrusive thoughts, and emotional challenges in a safe and structured way. Therapy, especially cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), can help you understand and reframe negative thought patterns, build resilience, and develop healthier coping strategies. Practice mindfulness and grounding techniques to stay present and reduce anxiety. Remember that setbacks are part of the recovery process, and itâs essential to be gentle with yourself instead of self-criticizing. Focus on creating a balanced routine, engaging in activities that bring you peace, and gradually rebuilding your emotional strength. With patience, support, and consistent effort, itâs possible to regain control over your mind and feel more emotionally stable.
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Ms. Neha Sachdev
Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Delhi
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Anxiety, fear and intrusive thoughts are caused by overthinking. Overthinking is mentally draining and stressful which also causes low motivation towards one’s goals. U need to discuss about your cause of these anxiety. What is the base thought of these thoughts. What is it that makes you scared of? What is the level of pressure of performance that you are going through. Relapse of no fap is the part of anxiety and stress. Mindful fapping is recommended.
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
It's anxiety.kindly connect with psychologist for proper treatment
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