Learning Disabilities Clinic, Naraina Vihar

1 year ago, I was sure I wanted to be divorced after 10 years of year of marriage. Before my thoughts went to separation, I spent a lot of time thinking about the future and focused on the hope that my life would improve, that I would be happy in my marriage.The hardest part of wanting to divorce was coming to the decision, in admitting that I was deeply unhappy and in finding a way to communicate this to my spouse. There was sadness in the loss. And then all the practical things: dividing property, finding a place to live, informing children, family and friends.I felt very alone and abandoned. At the same time, I felt I wanted to be free more. My spouse never felt the need for counselling and therapy. What is that we can’t solve that a counsellor can was his favourite sentence and within 5 minutes we were bickering once again. We came to meet Dr Singh family and all in tow at the age of 34. It was hilarious to see the look on the doctor’s face. Imagine 34 years old and needing your dad and mom to come with you for therapy.

The reaction of my in-laws was extremely difficult and while I expected that they would be bitter I was not prepared for the "shunning" I experienced from them in front of dr singh. Dr singh kind of convinced us to give it a last chance and helped us go forward one day and one problem at a time. In conversation we came to realise that my history with my husband was in fact not limited to our children, but the entire apartment complex thanks to his mother. Getting diagnosed and accepting it helped acknowledge the emptiness between me and my husband and made the future look less scary and more valuable. It gave me hope. After therapy I live much more one day at a time. This does not take away from my commitment or loyalty to my family, but I am just no longer willing to sacrifice my own serenity for anyone who gives me negative vibes. The best part of therapy for me was learning to stand on my own.The thought of living for another 45-50 years in an unhappy marriage was pivotal in my decision to either seek therapy and ensure changes happen or I leave my marriage as life is short and we are meant to be happy. Returning to normal life and specially sex was a challenge as the very thought would send a shiver up my spine. My spouse has made a lot of changes for me and I come to my doc for maintenance of my sanity every month with my husband. Well we are together for the now at least. At least the loud voices and aggressiveness has stopped. Respect is in. That is a good enough start.

Prof Singh helped me through my break up that happened January 1st. He’s super articulate and provides you insight on things. He provided me with terms associated with what I’m feeling. One of those terms being extinction theory where when the feelings are dying you feel them more intensely before it fully withers out and when knowledge is shared and not withheld and just knowing there as a term associated to what was feeling made me feel grounded. That I wasn’t the only one going through with it since there’s a term/theory based on it. Worked out my feelings with me. Even if it’s right or wrong. Provided me with an unbiased perspective. Which is hard to get with your friends since they’d just be on your side. Even though we were talking for a month, Prof really helped me through a lot and I thank you for that. If problems arise that are just as bad I’ll probably come back here.I respect his slow and thoughtful approach and how he offers information in a way that I can understand and trust. I like this because I am analytical and it slows me to decide within my own value system how to look at things as they are and react accordingly. The plan right now is to heal and revive It’s critical when stakes are high, to have clarity and confidence in yourself. I had to do something because my relationships across the board were suffering and I couldn’t allow myself to be the one who caused this or didn’t try to make the bad ones better and the dump or adjust the malignant ones that sucked my soul. The one issue he insisted was I come with a family member every time and although I did not understand this perspective, when we went on zoom from the second session and later I understood why when he shared the reason and I respect the choice he offered to me. Also he charged me lesser on zoom and that was a sure shot help for me even though I got the mandatory 80G receipts. He is definitely a go and he is very high on keeping secrets which for me is important as I am an anchor on TV.

We have never met a senior Psychologist who gives only 2 appointments a day or who when you realise , it has been 2 hours , still does not stop you from sharing your problem in detail. It's a very holistic experience to have a session with prof Singh. I would have never found him had I not tried to search more , going deeper through many profiles. A very holistic and spiritual approach to the whole healing process. It was easier for my husband and me to open up to him when we realised his maturity and age. We thought we were speaking to a 45 plus person but he is almost 57 or 58 and this really helped us feel emotionally safe and comfortable. We never knew we have been in conversation for Two Hours and still can't believe it how time passed. A very very kind approach with no rancour for anyone is how I would describe him.

My son is 6 years old. He was late in speaking and talking. Our doctor in Calcutta said that it is normal for some children to start speaking late and that he would start speaking as he grew up. Even our parents were not very worried and said to us that all children are different . Some start speaking early and some start speaking late. So we were very ignorant and happy at our life. When we saw the presentation that sir have and consulted with him, he made us speak to our child doctor and get a MRI. We were shocked to be told that there are some black spots that should not be there in the brain on the left side of our sons head. It was like small bundles of balls that then we were told was the reason for not yet talking for our son. My god , I wish we had known earlier as what am I earning for if not for my child. I am very grateful to Prof Singh For his kind guidance.