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Sibling relationship
I have two children aged 7.5 (m) and 2.5(f). When I get things for them, at times I get two identical things, at times two different things, at times only one.. I always tell them to share. So they do.. elder one currently ends up sharing more than the younger one..
However, some close people in the family are like if one thing has been brought for one sibling, it should not be taken/shared by the other one.. specific things for specific sibling..
Their bonding is very beautiful and elder one takes care of younger one whenever needed.
Younger one always wants what the elder sibling has.
I need some guidance on this and sibling rivalry.
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At younger age like 7.5 and 2.5 years, the difference of five years is quite big for anyone to presume that the children's needs and behaviours have to be comparable. Individuals (including children) and the way they think and perceive are never identical. So, I am of the opinion that your children need to be treated as unique individuals with their own personality traits and with their own unique needs and behavioural patterns. Let their attitudes of sharing and caring develop in their own unique ways. All that you probably have to keep an eye on is whether they are behaving and doing things with their own age-appropriate 'normalcy' or not. In other words, you need to bother or worry if there is anything unusual in their behaviour. Whatever way anyone tries to make them do or not do things, individual differences that nature has built in each person will play up and those expecting a scripted behaviour from them may get disappointed. You will be able to enjoy their development and growth better if you (and other closely connected people) allow both of your children to grow up in their unique ways, but under the good care and guidance from the elder members of the family. I think both of them are growing up well in an age-appropriate way and you have no reason to worry. Sibling rivalry is very common and normal, especially at their ages. You don't have to bother much about it if there is nothing harmful about the way they express it.
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Hello,
You have shared about the beautiful bond between your two children, which is so organic and pure.
Since they share and care well within themselves leaves no space for any external influences.
Also given the age and development of the children, these are natural, carefree and healthy signs of childhood and the joy of sibling synergy. The connection is strong and shall gradually move beyond material things.
More power to you for nurturing this bond with inculating the right values and fostering a good sibling relationship.
You can consult for further professional guidance.
Happy healthy Living!
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It's a beautiful relationship...it's perfectly normal.
Allow them to explore their relationship and behave accordingly.
Nothing is wrong as far as my knowledge is concerned.
Just be a guiding light...
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If the relationship is beautiful u need not worry.but u have to keep eye once they turn teenager.due to hormones they behavior starts to change .you just have to remind them to share the things that could be shared.rest is upto them.
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Ms. Shivangi Gupta
Psychotherapist
4 yrs exp
Delhi
It's a hard time to get over with. Sibling rivalry is a developmental process, with patience and a calm approach we can resolve it. You have to show firmness on some rules like no hitting. While at times you have to give them space to figure out the problems and resolve it together. Activities involving family bonding and family time are important to strengthen the bond. Hope things go easy for you.
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Ms. Simran Sharma
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1 yrs exp
Kolkata
It's normal for there to be moments of rivalry, especially with an age gap. Your approach of encouraging sharing and teamwork is spot on.
You're doing a good job by emphasizing the importance of cooperation and praising them when they get along. It's also okay for them to have their own special things sometimes. That helps them develop their own identities.
Just continue being the supportive parent, and their relationship will continue to grow and evolve.
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Ms. Kavita Sharma (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Udaipur
Hey! Thankyou for sharing.. As per you mention they are growing in beautiful bonding... and I do understand your concerned so let me share with you sibling rivalry depend on Environmental and family pattern also what experience children are gaining from their surrounding, you can take guidance for how to maintain more good relationships. Sometimes it's happens that one start taking control on relationship without knowingly. so I appreciate that you somewhere understand this part.
So coming to the end yes you can book an appointment for guidance with the Counselor.
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Ms. Smriti
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15 yrs exp
Bangalore
Let them build the bond in there own way.
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