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Sex Phobia due to pain in Vagina
My wife has a phobia of having sex. She thinks that she will not bear the pain caused by insertion of my penis in her vagina. She shouts whenever I put my penis on the opening of her vagina and doesn't allow me to get that in. She has neither a will to have sex nor she gets excited during foreplay, though she used to enjoy the foreplay earlier. She is still virgin and it has been 9 months since we married. One weired thing is that she allows me to have anal sex. She even thinks that she should be given a shot of anasthesia before having an intercourse so that she can bear the pain of having sex for the first time and her vaginal opening becomes wider and she doesn't have problems in having sex any further once the vaginal opening becomes wider. Please let me know what can be done in this scenario as this is high time we had a baby as we both have crossed our 26th birthdays. We want to have a normal life and sex has a lot to do with that.
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Hi, firstly ur wife is suffering from vaginismus. It's combination of mental and physiological factor.
In order to deal with it u will require to understand it's meaning and will require patients.
U will require proper guidance in this process.
Try to visit gynac or sexologoist near u or contact me.
Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions.
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Take homoeopathic med.
Sepia. 30.
3 times in a day for 15 days.
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Dr. Vinay Gupta
Sexologist
36 yrs exp
Bilaspur
It's not uncommon. Vaginismus is one of the female factor cause of non consummated marriage. U both need proper counseling, and then she requires regular /gradual self dilation of vagina. It may take few wks, once she dilates maximum size dilator, u will also require some medicine for good Erection. Like wise many couples get benefited to resolve this issue. Consult a good sexologist in ur area for proper treatment. U may also consult me, via online paid practo consultation.
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Dr. Arjit Gaurav
Sexologist
12 yrs exp
Gandhinagar
she has misconceptions about her vaginal opening n pain during sex.
first ask her why she think HORRIBLE PAIN IN SEX.?from wherr she got this thought.
anal opening is smaller than vagina, if she can enjoy anal sex then she can enjoy vgianl also
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Dr. Vidhi Modi
Sexologist
9 yrs exp
Ahmedabad
Vagina is made up of elastic tissue It can be stretched from inserting one finger to coming out head of the baby while giving birth. If you would do more foreplay and excite her, naturally vagina will be dilating and having no pain
For this you need to make her calm and relaxed
And sex is mind game which has to perform with relaxed and calm mind by both the partners
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Dr. Jitendriya Biswal
Sexologist
16 yrs exp
Bhubaneswar
Hi
This is know as vaginismus. A condition in females. The psychological anxiety is very high. It's not that easy to deal with. You both need a persistent effort to get rid of this. Let's have a discussion.
Happy to help you
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