Relation leads to divorce. To divorce?

Hello Mam, I am married 3 years ago.our marriage is arrange marriage.we were in sexless marriage 2.5 years.after that we seek help from professional and done sex after 2.5 years.At starting I have fear of sex and vaginismus.whenever we have tried it doesn't happen.My husband had no problem with not having sex.when i talk with him.on this topic he don't talk or sometime talks that I have fear.still i have some fear of pelvic checkup.In 3 years of marriage we lived 1 year seperate.we poor emotional and physical connection.we have lots of arguments and fights.Emotional Bonding was never there.Docter refers Couple Counselling from start.But my husband is not serious about it.And now our relationship is lead to divorce?I have mental health issue also like depression is there.I don't know what todo.Is my decision of divorce is right or not.I want to live with husband but he is not woking on marriage after so many intimation given my family.Because sex builds emotional bonding between couple