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Problem with past
I was married 23 years ago it was a joint family two younger brother of my husband who were unmarried at that time,my mother in las was working,we both huband wife were not earning at that time.
My mom in law posed many problems,insulted me,put economoic constraints on me,she tortured me in every possible way,even in my deliveries,she hasnot cardd for me and went to office living me all slone in the house.now at the slightest hint i remembers all her tortures and insult,although i don't want to take revdnge or harm her,i can't forget the past, she used to trouble me and i used to beat my kids so stupid i was,i only repent now.please suggest me a way out
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You seem to worry about the past incidents that happened in your life which is of course painful which i can understand. Try to focus your mind onto things which gives you happiness
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I can understand where you are coming from and how the incidents of the past have been hurting you. While you cannot change what happened in the past, you still need to resolve all the emotions that have been surfacing to be able to move forward and feel better. The feelings you have are valid and therapy can help you feel better and build better relationships with your children.
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Consult a Psychologist for a Counselling Session
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I appreciate that you reach out with your concerns
Past can not be undone...u have no control over it.
Guilt for hitting the kids/ anger for inlaws behaviour/ helplessness .....will worsen your mental n physical well-being
Only U can learn the lessons from past...what u should do n not do
Be gentle to yourself . what u have today is the most important..
What is in your control think about that n work on it
Develop hobby, show love to your kids, do exercise
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still u are unable to improve your thoughts n your condition u can book an online appointment with me at Practo-Rupali Mohbe
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Do the meditation for let go the past daily...use you tube
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Hi, I understand you have gone through a tough time with your mother-in-law. You are hurt about the fact that your mother-in-law did not treat you well and she was not there for you when you needed her. I understand it is not easy to forget the past and you feel upset, and lonely thinking about it. You can consult a psychologist who will help and guide you. You will require Counseling sessions.
It is important to remember that you have been a strong support system for your family. You have also done the best you can to take care of your family.
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You can contact me for online Counseling sessions.
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Ms. Divya Bhatia
Psychologist
3 yrs exp
Bangalore
Dear human, thank you for sharing and reaching out. Youâve taken the first step in resolving your concern and I appreciate your decision to reach out for help.
Forgetting your past is not easy,but there have to be some parts of life which have to be forgotten and write new ones, in order to write and make them with much better choices, the first step is always knowing that you can't change the past but can change present and future. So here are some steps to include in your daily life which can help for a better living:
Treat yourself how you would treat a friend
Separate yourself from mistakes
Look for life lesson
Forgive yourself
Focus on what's on your control
Be patient with yourself
Think a kind thought about yourself
If these tips still donât help, we recommend you talk to us by booking an appointment with us and you can talk to us without any judgment in a safe place.
Hope to see you soon and take care
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Yes, I can understand the difficulties you went through..
Hope you are doing better in life now..
It's not about are revenge, even if you feel bad and self pitying it will disturb you..
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My suggestion to you is to consult a psychological Counselor to feel more empowered and to overcome this issue..
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You can reach me by using the link given below for more details :-
https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... What you are explaining is 'Trauma' and it is really very hard to overcome trauma on your own. I suggest you seek a Psychologist that practices Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT).
We can't change the past but we can develop new insights which can help us perceive it differently and help us make peace with it.
Therapy is a process and not a consultation. It takes time but address the issue from the root. Go with a mindset of 15-20 sessions (minimum) on weekly basis.
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Seek a Psychologist who practices CBT. You can search me on Google or visit my Website (https://gunjanmaithil.wixsite.com/therapy)
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Try regulating your routine — Sleep, Meals, Exercise, Breathing/Meditation. Fix a time and duration for it.
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