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Overcoming sexual desire
I am unmarried but in a relationship past 8 years. I had a good sex life with my partner. But suddenly since 8 months things have been deteriorating. He doesn't want to keep any kind of relationship with me, neither physical nor emotional. He just wants to get rid of me and hence he does everything that can make me go away. But I am still staying as I love him. He says he loves me but he can't be with me as in getting married and having a family. He doesn't want any of me. If I try to go close he discards me.
Sometimes I get a great desire of having sex and getting loved, pampered or cuddled. But he says he can't give me all this. Could you please help me getting rid of these sexual desires?
I feel extremely awkward getting these physical needs which are not getting fulfilled. Is there something I can do to help myself ?
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Dr. Shubhanshu Gupta
General Physician
10 yrs exp
Jhansi
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Dr. Shivadev M
Sexologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hello there ,
From what you have mentioned it appears to me that the relationship equation between you and your partner had changed. Whatever the reasons are for this it seems that he doesn't want to build on the relationship or continue the same (either temporarily or long term ) , thus he is shying away and avoiding getting intimate.
Please understand that humans need the emotional connection too for them to get physical and thus the lack of emotional connection here due to recent change is the reason for the lack of desire.
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Please understand that you may have some repeating thoughts about sexual desire and wanting to get intimate as this is also a way of feeling close to that person. Stopping them abruptly may not be possible but however you can learn to accept them and realise you need not have an outlet with him everytime. The distress stops when you accept this and the change in relationship status.
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Keeping yourself busy and occupied so that these thoughts are less . Trying to involve in hobbies and things that you like can help . Physical workouts and eating healthy and being with people you trust and love is essential. Give it time. Time heals everything. Learn to accept the changes in life and open your mind to new experiences and self development. If the thoughts continue then some meds for short term can help. All the best .
Dr Shivadev M.
Co-founder and Consultant
Passion Fruit - Sexual Wellness Centre
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