Hey doctors, I got married recently, 3 months ago and I have a weak pelvic floor. I tried masturbation a month ago just to see if I'm able to get an erection and my erection seems fine but then I'm climaxing It feels like my buttocks are getting super tight and it causes discomfort. My wife was understanding for three months and now she's getting upset and irritated. Is it fine if I can proceed with sexual activity or at least masturbate while standing up ? As it is affecting our mental health, also sometimes my erection isn't that strong too and a few months ago when I tried masturbation i climaxed way to quickly like within a couple of strokes (max 6-8 seconds). I'm super anxious about that too, not sure what to do right now. Any suggestions would be highly appreciated. Thanks a lot.
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Understanding your symptoms
Pelvic floor tension: The tight buttocks during climax suggest overactive pelvic floor muscles, which can cause discomfort and affect sexual function
1.Premature ejaculation: Climaxing quickly is common and often linked to anxiety, stress, or heightened sensitivity
2.Erectile concerns: Occasional weaker erections are normal and can be influenced by stress, fatigue, or anxiety .
Safety of sexual activity and masturbation
It is safe to continue sexual activity and masturbation, including standing, as long as you avoid pain or significant discomfort. Listen to your body and stop if you feel pain or distress.
Practical suggestions for improvement
Pelvic floor relaxation
Reverse Kegels: Practice relaxing the pelvic floor muscles rather than tightening them. Imagine gently lengthening or opening the pelvic floor as you exhale.
Breathing exercises: Deep, slow breathing during sexual activity can reduce muscle tension and anxiety.
Progressive muscle relaxation: Gradually relax muscle groups from head to toe to reduce overall tension.
Managing premature ejaculation
Start stop technique: Pause stimulation when you feel close to climax, then resume once the urge subsides.
Squeeze technique: Gently squeeze the base of the penis for a few seconds when nearing climax to delay ejaculation.
Mindfulness and distraction: Focus on non sexual thoughts or sensations to delay climax.
Communication and anxiety management
Talk openly with your wife about your concerns and work together to reduce pressure and anxiety. Consider counseling or sex therapy if anxiety or relationship stress is significant.
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