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My father's weird behavior
Hi Doctor, I want to talk about my father. He was in para military. Since his adulthood he had anger issues, never listened to any one and carry a self pride with him. He is 76 yrs now, he is diabetic and has hypertension issue. Day by day he is becoming a irritating person. Will quarrel with me and my mother and if we reply back to him, he will start emotional blackmailing like "Today I won't take my pressure medicine". I am a IT guy and I am also pursuing my MBA. I am not able to concentrate in my work. He is creating a hell lot of mental stress to me. From childhood I have been a Obedient child but now it is getting to much. His ego is eating himself. Even with sweet words he doesn't want to understand what he is doing to us. If I leave them alone and relocate then people will think I am selfish and a disobedient child. There are many weird behavior and unusual activities my father is doing which is building my mental stress. Please suggest me what could be the best possible way ?
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we do understand its a difficult situation for you, but there's always a way.
visit therapist for you and your father, to manage your own stress, emotions and feelings.
considering his age, its difficult for him to change but even if he just accepts that can also make wonders.
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It looks like your fathers anger is making you feel stressed. You feel your father is stressing you out too much to an extent that you are not able to focus on your work. I understand you want to focus on your work and take care of your own mental well-being. You also want to feel calm and happy. I understand the home atmosphere is stressful but you can take care of your mental health and feel positive. A psychologist will guide you on how you can feel calm and positive.
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Consult a psychologist.
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Feel free to contact me for counseling session.
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Seek counseling sessions otherwise it may get complicated and you may land up with stress disorder.
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you can contact me through online appointment for further assistance
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Hello :)
I can see from what you have described about your living situation that it must be stressful. Though my first advice would be for your father to discuss therapy, I feel that may be too ideal and he is not the one reaching out here.
My two cents to you are that we are culturally bent towards mistaking self care for selfishness. As a working adult, you must take care of your own needs first. Anything that impacts your mental health to the extent that you lose concentration, needs to be dealt with. Being obedient, as desirable as it's made to seem in our society, can also sometimes mean we put ourselves in unhealthy situations just for the comfort of our elders. You can take care of yourself, and in doing so you will find the energy to be of more help to both your parents. That would be respectful too.
I hope you take care of yourself :)
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You could perhaps seek counselling yourself to help manage your feelings and thoughts around your father. That should help you focus on your work, and generally impact your mental health positively.
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Since this is a sensitive matter, considering your father's health conditions, I would recommend seeking support from trustworthy close ones before your making decisions.
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Mr. Rajendra More
Counselling Psychologist
21 yrs exp
Pune
He needs Psychiatric intervention
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Consult with Psychiatrist
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... His condition might be a product of various factors, including his childhood, parenting, professional hazards (paramilitary), marriage, old age, ailments, etc.
You can seek professional help for him as well, but you cannot depend on changing him at this age. You will have to find ways to take your focus out of him and onto your own life goals.
There are always options, in-between the two extremes you are thinking about.
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Consult a Psychologist.
Individual Therapy for Father and Son both.
Guidance and Counselling is required.
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