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My kid is 5 year old. While giving occupational therapy in class, she fell down from swing. She got a mild fracture and doctor has put plaster. I haven't told about my kid going to occupational therapy class to my mother in law as she calls all her sisters daily in phone and she is telling about our kid which I don't like. My fear is, I'm in my parents home . We haven't told my MIL about fracture of my kid. I don't know what to tell her. Because if I say about therapy now she would ask why haven't you said me bfr. My husband says we must surely tell about fracture to his mom telling that she got injured in park. If I say so, my parents would get bad name as they haven't looked after the kid well. I'm confused. Pls advice what to do. What to tell my MIL. I'm really confused. I thought not to tell her as she may create scene, that she wud have looked after the kid much better. She thinks that whatever we do we must inform her. She asks many questions without taking care of kid.
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Hi, I think you should be brave enough to talk about the truth which is not easy for everyone.Hiding truth can cause temporary relief, but it gives you stress anxiety, because you are afraid of getting caught.You need to be calm.People can be judgmental.You don't have to prove to others.
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Hey,
It's difficult to handle family dynamics but it is necessary that family should have a better clarity when it comes to health so be honest with them and give them that clarity not to spread this further and the reason why you were not able to share with them.
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Hi, It can be difficult to navigate family dynamics in situations like this. Ultimately, honesty is usually the best policy. You could consider telling your mother-in-law that your child got injured while playing at the park, without mentioning occupational therapy. This way, you are being honest about the situation without divulging all the details.
If your mother-in-law asks why you didn't inform her earlier, you can simply explain that the situation happened quickly and you were focused on getting the appropriate care for your child. You could also emphasize that your child is receiving the necessary treatment and is on the road to recovery.
It's important to remember that you are the parent and you have the right to make decisions about your child's care without feeling pressured by others. Trust your instincts and do what you feel is best for your family in this situation. If necessary, you can have a discussion with your husband about how to handle any potential backlash from your mother-in-law. Communication and unity as a couple are key in navigating these kinds of challenges.
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It's better to open up.
You can't hide physical deformity.
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Ms. Bhavani Kaushal
Clinical Psychologist
5 yrs exp
Delhi
Plz meet a Clinical psychologist
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Mr. Vijay Kumar
Psychologist
30 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Disclosing about your child's fracture and the circumstances that led to it to your mother in law is the right choice, I feel. This is more so as your husband too feels that way. There may be some adverse reactions when you or your husband discloses the situation to her. The effect of that repercussion will pass in some time. But the anxiety you will carry by hiding it from her or telling her some lies on it will be long-lasting. It will haunt you as guilt too for a long time. Moreover, if the entire episode gets disclosed to her at any later time (remember, at least five of you know it right now), you will have to face much stronger criticism from her, and maybe even from some others.
Hiding the reality from anyone who has a legitimate right to know it, out of any compulsion, usually carries a lot of potentially adverse outcomes. It will spoil peace of mind too. The best, I feel, is to be truthful on matters like what you have narrated. The pain of being truthful will only be there for a short time. If you hide, your guilt, anxiety, fear etc. on the possibility of the truth getting exposed anytime later will be long lasting. Take the help of your husband in dealing with the situation in a positive way.
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