Mentally thinking about past movement.

If anyone will not gives respect means I am always thinking about that only,,, my husband will not take care about that,,he often stating this is right time to ask..., but I am thinking every second that issue only,, I torture my husband for this,, but even am not convinced,, if anyone will not give any respect to my husband means I scold that person suddenly,,but my husband will not do that for me,, pls docter I am barely gets disturbed for this issue.. What will the solution.. In my life,,,my mother in law and father in law and brother in law sister in law only do this,they are not respect me,, they often called like podi vadi,even they show many egos but am thinking they are my relations,, but they are not thinking like that.. I am not feel comfortable to live.. I am thinking about my life ,I need my self respect.. Already I leave every situation easyly.. But I am not leave this .. What can I do in this situation ...please help me