Interfering future in laws. Pls guide.

Hey, I understand interference from family is an issue faced by a lot of couples in India due to our age-old cultural practices. Sometimes, the family doesn’t approve of the relationship and they choose to show it this way or sometimes it’s just an insecurity of letting another person into their loved one's life. We shall not judge where your boyfriend’s sister is coming from but letting it affect your 7-year-old relationship isn’t an option either. Here are a few steps you can follow to make things work again. Communicating with your partner- This is a relationship issue and needs a united front to tackle the situation. Couples tend to forget that issues and problems are to their relationship and it takes two to settle it down. Both the partners need to communicate what they think about the situation, what they find problematic, and what can be the possible solutions that suit both of their requirements. Fights are healthy- Every relationship goes through disagreements, arguments, and fights, it’s not just related to romantic relationships. They’re healthy till the time they get resolved. It can be either some kind of peaceful solution or maybe a compromise from either one of the partners. Always remember your relationship, bonding and chemistry are bigger than these fights, everything can be resolved. You might have to adjust with your expectations, like spending quality time together and not looking at the quantity or any other requirement you decide on that needs you to adjust your attitude. Setting boundaries- Often in the initial stages of our relationship we forget to set boundaries and this continues for a long time but only with your partner, this can work as you can gradually set them up. Setting boundaries with their family is equally important and this should be done during the initial stage of meeting them. You don’t have to be close to everyone your partner is close with but having a cordial and healthy relationship is required. If there is any sort of confrontation required with your boyfriend’s sister, let him take the lead. After all, it’s their relationship and nobody can understand it better than them. Even after all this, if you cannot make peace with it, you might want to seek professional help. Hope this helps you. Thanks for reaching out and for any further queries feel free to contact me. Take care.

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You should go for a family counselling alongwith your partner and discuss the issues. Without hearing both sides of the story, its difficult to comment upon the issue.

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Try to remain calm and patient. your issue doesn't seems to be of any major concern. A family counsellor can guide you better.

Hello Sometimes we don't understand the other sides story in our society a married sister and her husband are  ought to be treated with respect and priority I am not getting into what is right or wrong but this is prevailing in our society and maybe his family follows that.you are with him for 7 years we 

Thank you for asking this question. I understand it might be overwhelming for you to go through this. During a conflict in a relationship, Communication is something that could help, like communicating with the sister in la. Establish some boundaries Find a middle ground Take some time off However, if this gets hard to deal with, please consult a therapist.

Reflect on the thoughts

If things still feel overwhelming, it would be advisable to talk to a therapist.

My suggestion would be  for both of you. Both of you  better to consult a therapist for a Pre-Marriage Counselling.. Both of you have invested your time and energy in this relationship.. Look for solutions instead of problems.. You both can be guided by a professional to be as support for each other..

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Hello dear I can understand what you are going through. You might be stressed about your relationship, values, personal choices, and space. There are many reasons behind all this. I know you cannot change others in the story, but what you can do is change your own approaches. Be on point to your boyfriend about your set time and space. There are many other reasons and things that are unexplored and for which you have to seek counselling sessions. It will help you to get not only an overview of the situation, but also to reach your possible solutions. You can also contact me. I can help you to explore the reason and gaps in your situation and also towards your solutions and recovery. Don't worry. You got this! Take care and stay safe

Hi I know it must be difficult for you to handle the situation. You must be feeling lonely and stressed. You must be feeling sad and unheard. I would like you to take up a session and discuss it in details with the therapist. If you are willing you can contact me on: eight nine one zero two five six nine seven two. For now all you can do is try talking to him and have an open communication. Think about the situation and try relaxing before talking to him. Thank You I hope this helps.

Thank you for sharing your story. It seems like there is a communication gap in this relationship and some issues with maintaining boundaries. Try communicating how you feel assertively without being passive or aggressive. Establish boundaries regarding how much quality time you need with your boyfriend.

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Try taking care of yourself through the frustration that everything is causing.