I want to understand people. Why?

Hi..I think you relationship need for time for both of you to understand whether you have true connection or not.Dont push each other to reach a conclusion this might lead to more problems and confusion.

Better you give her some space, let her self reflect n realise  her own emotions first.

Dont push each other to reach a conclusion this might lead to more problems and confusion.

How much ever we desire to know one's behaviour fully we still can't... The only person we can understand is ourselves... You may need to ask self some challenging questions to find hard truth about your relationship... Even if you will know her, you can't change her... So focusing on self is profitable...

Observe what's bothering you about her behavior...

You can read The Five languages of love amazing book for couples...

I understand your predicament and would like to make a few suggestions that might help you. I want you to know that with awareness of how the mind works and how thoughts are generated, you will get better at understanding the feelings of others and also dealing with them better and thereby overcome the challenges you are facing right now. I want you to know that you are capable of doing this and will successfully deal with them. Kindly read what follows : Understanding the nature of the mind and how thoughts are generated will help you deal with them. The nature of the Mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Ii always needs something to hold on to. Another important characteristic of the Mind is this - You will either have thoughts about the past or the future. This will keep alternating. Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that the Mind and 'Now' can never coexist. The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states will keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process. Having negative thoughts is something that plagues everybody from time to time. Trust me, even if everything was perfect, you will still find some shortcomings somewhere and brood about it. Tension or anxiety is a physiological response which is again part of being human. It is normal to have such thoughts about any situation. As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts are healthy enough to be acted upon. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by thoughts, just bring your focus back to your breath and take a few relaxing breaths. You will automatically be able to focus on the task at hand and do what is required. Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs will be replayed to you as thoughts. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of company you keep ( "You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with" ) Ask yourself : Where would I like to see myself ten years from now? What should I do today to reach there ten years from now? What would I do if I knew I wouldn't fail? What would I do if I weren't afraid? No matter how impossible the answers might seem, I want you to know that you can and will make them possible. Take the first step. The rest will follow. A beautiful future awaits you. Take ownership of every time, take responsibility for it and confidently work towards your dreams and aspirations. One day you will thank these dark moments for being the fuel for your success. Please set aside time for exercise daily and make sure you eat healthy every time. Our challenges that seem to threaten our very existence are the ones that serve as fuel for our evolution. Have faith in yourself. You are capable of dealing with this. You are going to do just fine. Take care.

Thankyou for Sharing, I appreciate that you are approaching guidance from Professionals, every individuals is different! There no fix tool which give you the measure and say this for exactly type of person he/she is! With your strong "Why's" I suggest you to consult with Psychologist for couple sessions to help your relationship better.