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Fear to try new things
My son is 5.9 years old.we want him to go to classes like keyboard, abacus or badminton which is apart from school ,to develop his social skills. But he is hesitating out of fear. He wants me to sit outside the class so that he feels comfortable to continue the class. He doesn't want to go to any classes now even to play. He wishes to play with new kids but it takes time to mingle. But his teacher says he mingles good at class and he is the acting leader. I don't want to force him to join any new classes. It is pressure for us as parents. We need to give him time to settle his fear ? Is this normal behaviour at this age?
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It's completely normal for children around your son's age to exhibit hesitations and fears when it comes to new experiences and social situations. It's important to remember that each child develops at their own pace and has their unique temperament. Here are some points to consider: Respect His Feelings: It's great that you're considering your son's feelings and not wanting to force him into anything. It's important to acknowledge his fears and hesitations and let him know that it's okay to feel that way. Gradual Exposure: Instead of pushing him into new classes immediately, you might want to take a gradual approach. You could start by arranging playdates with a few kids he might be interested in befriending. This way, he can develop social skills in a more comfortable environment. Stay Supportive: If he's open to the idea of attending classes, consider sitting outside initially as he has suggested. This can provide a sense of security for him knowing that you're nearby if he needs you. Over time, as he becomes more comfortable, you might be able to gradually transition to not sitting outside. Praise and Encouragement: Whenever he takes small steps towards participating, whether it's joining a playdate or going to class, make sure to praise his efforts and acknowledge his bravery. Positive reinforcement can go a long way in building his confidence. Observation: Pay attention to his reactions over time. If his fear and hesitation persist and start to significantly impact his daily life or well-being, it might be worth consulting with a child psychologist or counselor to get professional guidance. Teacher's Feedback: It's reassuring that his teacher observes positive social behaviors in the classroom. This suggests that he is indeed capable of interacting well with peers, even if he's hesitant at first. Remember, every child is unique, and it's important to support him in a way that suits his individual needs and comfort level. As he matures and gains more exposure to new experiences, his fears are likely to diminish gradually. Be patient, offer a supportive environment, and celebrate his progress along the way.
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If his teacher says he mingles well when given enough time,  then it shouldn't be a problem. Just encourage him enough to feel confident and don't insult everytime he makes mistake. Build his self esteem at home and encourage him to express his fears. If it still persists, then you can take a consultation with psychiatrist and need for treatment can then be assessed.
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