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I am preparing form upsc civil services and this is my third attempt and since lockdown i have bern living at home. My parents started flighting a lot in past 3 months because of someone's marriage is coming up.after a point I and my brother felt the need to intervene because the fights got worse.My father was on the wrong side so we took stand for mother.But since then my father is not speaking with us.He abused my brother verbally but he didn't said anything in return.We TRIED to talk to him gently and with calm but he is not ready to listen to anything but just abuse either us or to mother. So all this happened,now my mother talks to him just to correct things and to calm him down but he is not trying at all, and i am not able to focus on study and make peace with it. Now i dont know what to do as even if we let go of things and talk to him then he will think that we was right all along about all the things , so we are also compelled no to talk to him because of his behaviour. HELP
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Hii I understand the situation at ur home It is stressed and u not able to concentrate on ur studies.. And nature/behaviour of ur father is making u stressed and anxious Dont worry about this things they are part of life U can look forward for counseling session with us.
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Hey there! I understand how difficult it must be for you to be in this situation. I wish I could just tell you that time would fix everything, but the truth is that relationships only work out with proper communication, understanding, trust, respect and above all effort from both ends. However, what I could tell you is that you have taken the right step by reaching out for help. This is a step that a lot of people fail to take. I am proud of you for finding the courage to reach out. The best step for you to take, is to consult a psychologist. A psychologist is a mental health professional who will be able to look into your concerns in detail and formulate a treatment plan specifically for you. You can consult therapists who are specialised in family counselling since most of your concerns are related to your family. You could also try and discuss family therapy, wherein all the members of your family attend individual and group therapy sessions and figure everything out together. In case your family is not interested in therapy, you can always consult a therapist to find out how you can deal with these concerns better. I also understand how studying in an environment such as this could be extremely stressful. Know that it is okay to feel everything you do. Focus on trying to change small things that might have a big impact on improving your study routines. Here are some thing you can do to prepare for your exam better: Accepting the situation - Try to accept the fact that your family situation may take some time to improve. Worrying about your family will neither fix the damaged relationships nor help you clear the exam. So when you do feel worried, try to reflect on your thoughts and emotions and act on the thoughts you can do something about to make things better. Meditation - Practising mindfulness and meditation is an amazing way to improve focus and concentration while studying. Even about fifteen to twenty minutes of mindfulness is said to have positive results on mental health. Try to set and achieve small goals- Instead of focusing on everything you have to study, try to break it down to parts and try to go through one part at a time. Make sure to reward yourself in small ways when you do achieve goals that you set. Talk to a trusted friend - When things get difficult, it often helps to vent out your feelings and pent up emotions to a trusted friend. Talking to them will leave you feeling loved, supported and cared for and remind you that you are not alone. Take a break - When you feel stressed out, take a break. It could even be for five minutes. Use this time to unwind and relax. You can sit quietly and take deep breaths or even listen to music depending on what helps you feel calmer. Taking breaks also help you to start fresh when you start studying again. Stay strong! You will get through this, slowly and steadily.
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Hello! I can understand what you are going through, and it's difficult to concentrate in studies when your primary environments is like that. But you don't have to worry about it because these are all temporary problem, but preparing for civils is more important than giving importance to those things which are less important. everything is temporary in nature you remember this things. this too shall pass. just block the outer environment and try to find peace within you. May be counselling sessions will help you out to cope such situation
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Don't use negative words for yourself or for anyone. Try to avoid Always and Never whenever you are talking to your parents
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Hi, I understand that you are upset and stressed about the situation at home. You are not able to focus on your studies because of the situation with your father. Do not worry you don’t have to feel stressed and helpless about what you are going through. Counseling sessions will help. You can book an appointment with a Counselor.
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Yes, we all feel we are right, and we need not get corrected by anyone.. It includes you as well as your father.. My suggestion is to reflect on the above perspective to cool down yourself..
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