Attractions towards a girl in my office.

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Hi, First things first : At your age, it is too natural to get romantic attraction to some one. You are no exception. Whether ugly or handsome everyone is entitled to that. Please do not undermine yourself. You may be looking ugly to your eyes (your self-image) but you may be good-looking for others. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it is said. Physical appearance may be the first thing that catches attention favorably or unfavorably, for strangers... but, to those who get acquainted, and get to know the other person, they stop being bothered by physical appearance and start respecting/liking the inner qualities. They may as well fall in love. That happens! In the first place, you must meet a clinical psychologist or other competent personality trainer and overcome your negative body-image and negative feelings. Your self-esteem should improve. This is important not only from the point of view of romantic relationships, but is needed for other social skills, relationships and even your professional and day-to-day performance. Yes, do wait until you understand her impression about to you, and not reveal your mind till then. (This applies not only with this girl but any one in general). Any negative response/reaction from her can devastate you, unless you are taught to handle that. You DO have something special about you. Every one does. Identify that and focus on that talent, skill, kindness or whatever. Develop it so well that people around you should think of you in the first place when it comes to that skill/talent etc. This also helps boost your self confidence from another direction. Remember, no one likes someone who doesn't like him-/herself. Start liking yourself, no matter who or how you are! Best!