Anxiety due to a particular person.

Hi... We can't change who we get related to in a marital setting. We can choose a good spouse, a good family, and a stable social/financial background. But we can't choose the extended family members, relatives, friends of our in-laws. They all come in a package. What we can do is to understand the social dynamics that is playing in and also understand our relative position in that social environment. We need to understand that our position has to be aligned with our stakeholders and not in conflict with our or stakeholders interests or loyalties. Our social fabric is way more complex and it's colours and textures vary a lot from one region/community to another. But few things are true to most of such social settings. One such thing is not to believe that our personal morality, values, beliefs are over and above everyone else's, especially of our key stakeholders. You must keep your spouse and your mother-in-law on your side before making any important decisions. They are your key stakeholders. Apart from them, the siblings and father of your spouse are also important members that you need to think about. It is not possible for you to keep everyone happy but you must have an idea about how your actions and opinions are going to impact them. These are all strategic matters and they nowhere mean that you have to compromise on your needs and wants everytime. It means that you must negotiate while keeping in mind that you are not the only stakeholder and that your relative position is only going to get stronger with age and time. If you keep your books right your reputation will grow and you will be held with respect over a longer period of time. Ignoring these complex dynamics and trying to push over your needs and wants with no regards to your key stakeholders is only going to land you up in trouble.

Consult a Psychologist. Interpersonal Relationship Counselling or Marital Counselling is required.

Mr. Gunjan Maithil Senior Psychologist Cell: nine six seven one three zero three one three four Website: https://gunjanmaithil.wixsite.com/therapy App: http://wix.to/fechb08?ref=cl