Your description of problem is inadequate.

People are there always to pin point on others who have issues such that it makes them happy. If it is effecting you,. You might as well take any actions on it, actions help you to understand what more can be done such that you don't get impacted with it.any further

First of all you need self realisation how worthy you are it doesn’t matter what others opinion is about you if you think your are worthy nine of the thoughts can harm you be bold , improve your will power

It cannot be a mistake of one particular person every time ... Yet, perceptions and expectations are also culprits.. Saying so, as the law of nature and science mentions, every action has its own reactions.. The toughest practice is "How not to React".. You can consult a psychological Counselor for more clarity..