Hi, Thanks for reaching out.
We can understand how difficult it gets to deal with feelings of being not good enough, and most often than not these feelings start to come when we compare ourselves with others. But the one important fact we forget is that everyone has a different journey in life, and even though it feels that the other person has the perfect life, they might also be struggling with something that we donât know about. You are not alone.
Here are some things that might help in not comparing ourselves,
Be aware of, and avoid your triggers, Start identifying the moments that make you compare yourself to others. As I previously stated, social media is quite important to most of us. What about other scenarios? Make a list of the people and things you often admire or compare yourself to. Write down how each has a negative impact on you and why it's a waste of time. Make a mental note to catch yourself the next time. If at all possible, avoid comparison triggers, especially if the activity or contact adds no significance or actual worth to your life.
Remind yourself that other peopleâs outside cannot be compared to their inside, this is such a beneficial habit to develop. You can't determine someone's reality just on their external appearance unless you're quite close to them. People meticulously curate their social media versions of their lives, as well as the lives they live in public.
Be grateful for the good in your life, and resist any lies that shout âItâs not enoughâ. You'll be significantly less sensitive to comparison and envy if you resolve to be truly grateful for what's good in your life and remind yourself of it on a daily basis. Stop and remind yourself of what's positive in your life right now if someone or anything provokes that awful sense of negative comparison. There is a great deal.
Use comparison as motivation to improve what actually matters, Unless what you perceive and "covet" in someone is something of deep value, such as their generosity or kindness, this human proclivity to want what others have is such a waste of time.
If this feeling keeps on increasing then it is best to consult a professional, we would highly recommend you to approach a professional counsellor/mental health practitioner who would be able to guide you through in a safe and non-judgemental manner. It is perfectly okay to seek out professional help from mental health practitioners from organisations or independent set ups.
Credits: Apoorva Jain, Intern at Heart It Out
Answered2021-07-07 15:34:29
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