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I have had physical fights with my ex girlfriend 4 times in the last 1.5 years. We are not dating anymore. I cannot completely say that it was my fault as she used to say things which were quite painful at times, and I used to loose my temper and physically harm her. I have asked her for forgiveness multiple times. I feel guilty and extremely ashamed of myself for raising my hands on somebody I loved. Also we were drunk whenever the fights took place. I feel like a criminal and cry and pray in front of God in my temple everyday asking for forgiveness. I was never this abusive person, I used to be very calm and composed earlier. Also, I had been diagnosed with social anxiety + severe OCD 4 years back and I have been taking Fludac 20 mg everyday. I had stopped taking Fluvoxamine nearly 2 years back. I want to be a better person, I accept my mistake and want to learn from it and move on.
Guidance will greatly be appreciated.
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It’s a great step that you wish to work upon your weaknesses. That is like winning half the battle. To know your case better and help you treat your root cause, do get in touch with me. I am an online counselor and an internationally certified NLP practitioner. Visit my Facebook page to know my work. Would be happy to help !
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Follow doctors advice to take medicines along with therapy sessions will help you. Accepting your mistakes is the first step to change yourself. Explore your concerns with trusted person. First you forgive yourself and later all others will forgive it will take some time.
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The first step in self growth is self awareness. I must congratulate you on reaching this first step. You are thoughtful and have analysed your behaviour and possible provocations behind it. Having done that, you are already on the path to change. When working on personal development, it's important to make a set of goals you wish to achieve and then divide this list into short-term and long-term goals. Accordingly, small but significant changes have to be brought in Ines thoughts and behaviors in order to ensure a lasting change.
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Also, if any elements of social anxiety or OCD remain, those can be worked through in a therapy session.
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Hi,
I can understand what may have led you to behave like that. The next big step is to learn Anger management. Guilt is not a good feeling to have for a long time. Guilt needs to be replaced with positive emotions.
Being in a toxic relationship makes us behave differently than or true nature. It's better to remove ourselves, than to hurt each other.
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While you seem to have introspected, it is imperative to enhance self awareness so that we’re cautious of our triggers, and can be more cognisant of our behaviour. Counselling and therapy is a great way to enhance awareness as well as express our feelings.
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I appreciate you for having accepting your mistakes, and the willingness to work all those..
I day you realised your mistakes you are forgiven at least 50%..
Yet, as you beautifully mentioned, for that it should not be repeated, you need to bring in certain clarity..
For a detailed discussion and understanding, you can connect with me by using the link given below :-
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