Hi You were in an unhappy relationship before marriage. You believe the foundation for marriage is trust and loyalty. You wanted to talk about the past relationship with your husband and you were unable to talk about it before marriage. Your husband keeps bringing up the topic of your past relationship and it is making you feel uncomfortable. You now want to discuss the topic of your husband talking about past relationship with his family and your family. You want to have a good relationship with your husband and you want to feel calm. A good approach would be to talk to your husband about how you feel when he talks about your past relationship. You can tell him that you feel uncomfortable about it. You can talk to him first before involving your family and his family. Whatever decision you take it should not affect your well-being. To feel better you can talk about what is in your mind with a psychologist. A psychologist will guide you on how you can manage the situation and feel calm.

Hi, Trust and loyalty is very important in a marriage relationship.Talking about your pre marriage relationship to your both family is.good.Consulting a psychologist for counseling sessions will be helpful 

I see how the present situation is distressing for you. I can understand how there were some circumstances which unintentionally led to a breach of your husband's trust. I can sense his harshness towards you. I can only imagine how unfair and overwhelming it must be for you. Giving suggestions without appropriate in-depth discussion may not be healthy. Connecting with a counselor can provide you with a space to consider all your options and choose what to do next. Even so, it is very courageous of you to try your best to resolve the current situation. I hope you find the help required.

Foundation for any relationship is mutual respect and trust.A indepth understanding of the problem need to be analysed. Counseling services is a better option.

Hi You need to take a strong stand for yourself.plz connect  with psychologist  to discuss in detail for better  solution

I will not suggest you to bring such sensitive topic in front of the family if your husband is not willing or asking you to do. It may negatively affect your marriage. Also, you have mentioned the word "problem" multiple times but without any proper insight and perception, I am not able to suggest/comment anything. It will be better if you can communicate with me.

Yeah if you are strong on your stand you can clear It once and for all..

Hi.. This situation needs proper response. Don't react. Before taking this decision to open up with ur family regarding this I suggest u to go for couple counseling.

Hi... This is a very common trend when one person tries to be honest and the other person uses that information in bargain for an upper hand in a marriage. Let me share few facts. Average age of loosing virginity, both by men and women, in India is 22.9 years. So anyone marrying beyond that age can not statistically have such expectations. Also, we as a society want absolute freedom for ourselves but some how we are not that open when it comes to our close ones (parents, siblings, spouse, etc.) taking that freedom. On your part, it was not wrong to be in a relationship before marriage. But not telling him clearly on his face before bringing him into a marital relationship was completely wrong. He is now feeling cheated more than even trying to make peace with your past. You made one mistake and now you are again going to make another big mistake by involving families into it. It can spread like wild fire and burn everything you have built. You need to rather accept your mistake unconditionally infront of your husband and tell him that you know you have made a mistake by not telling him clearly about your past before marriage. But now you are not okay with him bringing this up again and again in an argument. Tell him that you are not embarrassed about your past but extremely sorry for not let him know before marriage. Tell him and talk to him about what hurt him the most and if there is anything you can do to make it right. Tell him that now you are a married woman with a baby and a husband and they mean the world to you. Give him a chance to digest, accept and move forward. This will not happen immediately. It may take various more arguments/discussion to get over it. Try not to defend your mistake (not telling him before marriage) but also be firm about your past (you were not married at that time).

Relationships flourish through genuine communication. I think there was a deficiency in it in your case at the time of your entering into married life. That probably brought your marriage into the current situation, I feel. Looking ahead is more important now. Look ahead in such a way that you solve your problems rather than complicate them. Please understand, your husband (like most husbands in similar situations) is hurt and he will be finding it difficult to cope with. He may be in the grip of a sense of betrayal (a strong word, but the feeling may be so with him right now). I am of the view that a psychologist will be able to bring both of you to a level of understanding and awareness that will ensure regular, positive and endearing communication between both of you. Now on involving your families in the matter - I think you should avoid it. Today you are dealing with one person's (your husband's) reactions towards you. With all the problems that exist between you both, you still can generate meaningful communication with him. When you make the matter public among your family members, the situation is very likely to spiral out of your control. Remember the adage: two is company, three is crowd! Each of your family members is likely to take positions and some of them may become harmful to the conciliation process between both of you. With all these, my advice to you would be, - fix up a counselling session for both of you with an experienced psychologist soon. You may need a few sessions of marriage / relationship counselling which you attend without fail. This will improve the quality of life between both of you.