Thank you for sharing something so deeply personal. It takes strength to express this vulnerability. From what you've written, it seems like you're experiencing intrusive thoughts, emotional distress, and possibly a persistent negative self-image triggered by a past interpersonal experience. The phrase that’s stuck in your mind appears to have created a loop of self-doubt and shame.
This kind of experience can lead to rumination- a state where the mind replays painful memories and internalizes criticism. The urge to “undo” the event and the distress you feel may be signs of trauma-related anxiety or a cognitive distortion, both of which are treatable with help.
You are not stupid—your insight and expression of this pain show quite the opposite.
Next Steps
a. Please consult a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist for a thorough assessment. You may benefit from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) or trauma-informed therapy to challenge these intrusive beliefs and heal.
b. Journaling thoughts, practicing mindfulness, and speaking kindly to yourself are good interim steps, but professional help will support you in breaking this cycle effectively.
c. If you're not comfortable with in-person sessions, you can explore confidential online therapy platforms that offer chat/text therapy.
Health Tips
a. What someone else said to you in a moment of conflict does not define your worth.
b. Avoid isolation; try to keep a connection with people who validate you.
c. Persistent negative beliefs can worsen without intervention- don't delay seeking help.
You are worthy of kindness, growth, and peace. And reaching out today is your first real step toward that.