I understand your predicament.
I would like to make a few suggestions that could help you :
As much as you would like to take care of your child in the best possible way you can, you know that it is only possible when you take enough care of yourself first.
Here is a link that can help you figure out what the next step could be :
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41642
Before coming to any kind of conclusions about yourself and life in general and taking decisions in the light of those conclusions, I would like to suggest to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. Just like how the clothes you are wearing right now are yours, but not you, thoughts that you experience from time to time are yours, but not you.
The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power.
Our attitude towards life in general and things in particular is based on our Beliefs - what we believe to be true about ourselves and the world.
What are your core beliefs about yourself and the world?
What are those beliefs on the basis of which tolerating physical violence and abuse seems to be the only way?
Is your situation really hopeless? Is there anything that you can still do to help yourself ?
Try writing them down and examine the validity of these beliefs.
Some of them may be limiting and negative in nature because of the kind of feedback you received while growing up - at home, in school, from your classmates, friends, relatives, etc. But once you are aware of them, you shed light on them,examine their truth, they can no longer manipulate your behavior or actions. As your beliefs change, your attitude changes, and words, actions and behavior follow.
One of the definitions of stress is the thought(s) or the belief that you don't have the capability and the resources to address, to deal with, to successfully overcome the challenge(s) that is right in front of you now.
Consider the components of this equation - On one end you have the object that induces this belief in you ( it might be a person/event/situation ). Is there anything you can do to change this side of the equation?
On the other end, you have your resources to tackle it - reflect on whether you have done all you can to prepare for it/address it/ do justice to it.
When thoughts of such nature plague you, it is natural to take comfort in self-pity, anger, frustration, and so on. The state of our mind has a bearing on our physical health too. So, addressing the root cause will help you overcome any physical challenges you might be experiencing too.
Remember that you are your own savior. You have what it takes to do what is right, in you. You have the answers within. Listen to their call and take the first step. The rest will follow. You will see for yourself that you have the strength and the resources too.
Our challenges that seem to threaten our very existence are the ones that serve as fuel for our evolution.
Here are a few links that could be helpful :
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41615
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41716
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41867
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41735
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41642
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41639 Step One
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41640 Step Two
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41641 Step Three
https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41645 Step Four
Take care.
Answered2020-08-05 08:31:26
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