Regarding depression. Really need help!

Dear Dipti, I understand you. I am looking at your problem from an existential and developmental perspective. It appears that the goal that you're striving to achieve is not exactly your choice, or you are forcing yourself to do what your mind doesn't want. So many times we all take decisions to do things we really don't want to do, and this is because we tend to seek approval from others  in order to survive - emotionally. This behaviour of ours has roots in our childhood. As a child we all were bubbly, happy, spontaneous, and free spirited. We explored the world the way it came by, and it was great fun living the life. But then, our care givers (parents) had different ideas for us. They wanted us to realise their dreams through us. They set goals for us, and demanded us to achieve. They would accept us only if we met them. Therefore we shelved all our childhood innate qualities and forced ourselves the way our parents demanded. That is how we have ended up doing what we don't want. .

Don't forget that your body has its own mind. Don't force your body to obey it. Try to listen to your body. Follow this simple method: Each morning when you wake up and before leaving the bed run a mental scan on your body and check for any signals. Is there pain, discomfort, heaviness or tension in your body? If so, listen to it and give it rest till it relaxes. Leave the bed only when you really feel afresh and your batteries are fully charged.

If you don't find improvement with this, remain confused or depressed and don't know what to do, please don't go for antidepressants or tranquillisers. A couple of counseling sessions will help you tremendously. Please seek emotional counseling by a psychologist not by a psychiatrist. If you are willing I am ready to help you. I am a trained counsellor and a psychotherapist. I am based at Bangalore, and I do online counseling for my clients living abroad. For details view my website: www.medisex.org Dr Vinod Chebbi, Bangalore.