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Hello doctors Im married female nd got good husband nd a cute & naughty 20mnth old baby. My prob s tat im n depression due to loneliness lik i dont get any kind of support frm my parents nd my in laws got expired 3yrs b4. My hubby is paka gentleman nd he loves me nd my baby very much nd i too love him lot. As my baby s vry naughty, i cldnt manage both hse, baby nd othr thgs. My parents doesn't show any help towards me. I dnt need money help or othr... I need jst a small support. Dey have lots of egos towards us... Im in depression a lot... Every tym my parents fite wid me so tat i dont go to them to ask fr support. Bt dey expect oly money help frm otherwise dey wil throw of me lik waste in dustbin.. Pl z tl me hw to overcome diz..
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Dear friend, initially u can do some psychotherapy, if ur depression is persistant then go for medicines. Its curable, so dont worry. Best wishes.
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Ms. Hema Sampath Bangalore | Clinical Psychologist
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According to ur statement,  u hv a wonderful  hubby and a cute little kid.
Is it not your responsibility to look after ur kid,  rather than expecting  others to take care.
If u find it very difficult  put her into a day care for 3 to 4 hrs and relax .
Find solutions from.youe side instead of blaming others for your problems.
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I think you can also consult a psychologist in your city and share your feelings and learn to lead a happy and a cheerful motherhood.
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Ms. Sneha Bhat Bangalore | Counselling Psychologist
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Hi,

First of all let me congratulate you for the closeness you share with your husband & baby. You have been fortunate to have an understanding & supportive husband & he is fortunate to have a loving & caring wife/mother who has been managing house & naughty child brilliantly.

As you rightly pointed out, boredom & loneliness are very hard to bear. Staying back at home & raising a child is not an easy task as it might seem. You shall be attending to the child most of the time, paying least attention your own well-being or necessities. Amidst accumulated boredom & monotony, it's natural to crave for some caring company who might aid you through the process.

As parents are your closest relatives, you have been seeking their support in your hard time.  However there has been an understanding gap where your needs & intentions are not understood by your parents & their intentions are somehow hidden from you. I see that you love them & crave for their attention as well as well-being which isn't going across to them in the way they can understand. I presume from your description that at one point, you have helped your parents financially which is coming in between your relation somehow. There has been an ego clash somewhere which needs to be sorted out before you could relate to each other normally as parents & daughter. Please consider a counseling session, so that you may sort out this understanding gap which is leading to a lot of heartburns.

When it comes to your loneliness & dipped mood, please consider sending your baby to a play home for a while; which could be the time for you to engage in a hobby, socialization or a part time job. You need a quality engagement in first place with people. 
Please remember that you have so many things going right in your life & few other things which can be sorted out. You have been successful in so many aspects. Go ahead & work in a different way on the things which need your attention.

Take Care & start bridging the Gap..!!

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Dr. Anil Kumar Jain Bangalore | General Physician
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Hello there. 

I can understand your concern. 
Woah. You got a lit of things going on in your head some of those are probably not even true.
Just talk to your parents. Have a converstaion with them. Talk about the baby and stuff.
Gradually try to sort out the differences. 
Consult a psychiatrist in person for further evaluation and management. 
Best regards.
Dr. Anil kumar jain.
Bangalore.

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